FSOS notes - Part 1 Quiz 1 17:49:00 ← ← What is...

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Unformatted text preview: Part 1 Quiz 1 30/03/2010 17:49:00 ← ← What is intimacy? • A “fuzzy concept” • Intimate experiences: feeling close or sharing ourselves with another • Intimate relationships: sharing intimate experiences in several areas over time with increasing expectations ← ← Modernist and postmodernist perspectives ← Some theories have less empirical support than others (theories vs. research) ← All are somewhat equally supported ← ← Biopsychosocial Theories/ Melding the Objective and Subjective in Intimacy ← Objective: • Hormones, neurochemistry • Physiological systems • Behaviors, actions, etc… ← Subjective: • Emotions • Emotional experiences • Historical and Current-day contexts • Thoughts, needs intentions, etc… ← ← Buss’ Evolutionary Theory of Attraction • Extrapolates evolutionary theory • Primary purpose of love is to propagate one’s genes to the next generation • Homosexuality is not considered in the theory • Men want to pass their genes widely. Women want to have few children so they can provide care for insuring their survival ← Men are attracted to: • Signs of Reproductive Fitness (health and youth) • Signs of Exclusivity (coyness, being hard to get) ← Women value both reproductive fitness and the capacity to provide support • Reproductive Fitness (fitness, masculinity) • Support (Ability to provide) • Generosity ← ← All potential dating partners, ways to narrow them down to one: • closeness—attractiveness—social background—complementary— commitment readiness ← ← Wheel of Love ← Socio-cultural Background ← Role conceptions ← Rapport (talk for hours) ← Needs Fulfillment(connection thru needs) Self Revelation (share secrets...trust) ← Mutual Dependency (call for help/excitement) ← ← Olson, DeFrain, Skgrand (2008) ← Friends vs. Lovers ← Friends • Enjoyment, acceptance, trust, respect, mutual assistance, confiding, understanding, spontaneity ← Lovers • Passion Cluster: fascination, sexual desire, exclusiveness, etc. • Caring Cluster: Champion/ Advocate, giving to utmost, etc. ← Good friends ← More healthy/ honest/ forgiving with friends ← Friends will be more straight with each other and receptive ← “Fucked up insecure neurotic emotionally unstable” ← Friends can argue, Romance cannot...afraid of loosing each other ← ← Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love ← Consummate Love: intimacy, passion, commitment ← ← Intimacy as a Dance of Individual Partners • Each Partner plays a role in the Dance o You are in a relationship to improve yourself • The importance of Self Focus o The goal is to be in relationships where the separate “I-ness” of the parties can be appreciated and enhanced, and where neither competence nor vulnerability is lost sight of in the self or the other” ← Clinical Views of Intimacy (Schnarch) ← Are you in this relationship because it is validating you? Or are you already okay?okay?...
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FSOS notes - Part 1 Quiz 1 17:49:00 ← ← What is...

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