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Unformatted text preview: Communication,
Conflict, & Emotional
Part 2 Gender Differences in
Communication Pursuit-withdrawal pattern Pursuit-withdrawal pattern
Flooding & negative escalation Flooding increase
Negative escalation: response w/ neg action to partner Increase in neg affect Physiological differences in the brain
Differences in socialization
Women – initiate w/ gentle startup Men – accepting of influence The Role of Humor and
Communication Campbell & colleagues (2008) Dating couples
2 types of humor Affiliative Aggressive
Aggressive When people will say something funny/tell joke/engage in spontaneous witty
banter to amuse partner. Use to discillitate reltionship and reduce tension.
Reduce tension in a way that affirms both partner, don’t both any paterner
Use for purpose of manulipating someone, teasing, redicule, sarcasm. Use this
time of humor as means of enhancing self at expense of other. Express humor
w/o regard of impact of others. Results – affiliative humor
Results Partners – individuals more satisfied w/ relationship
Self & Partner – increase perceived closeness;
Partner- Better problem resolution following discussion.
Partner- Emotional Management
Emotional Dysregulation Neuropsychology Brain
2. Prefrontal cortex: planning, logic and goal setting
Amygdala: life-threatening emergencies
Amygdala: Ex. Simple housework disagreement life threatening
attack from enemy
attack Unhappy couples unable to manage their
Unhappy Primary emotions- frustration, disappointment, loneliness
Secondary emotions– anger, depression, disgust, rage
Secondary Emotional Management
Steps to Emotional Regulation 1. Being Mindful 2.
2. Accepting and not judging
3. Practice: sit quietly, notice breathing
Practice: Practice: notice judgments, re-focus to notice breathing
Practice: Self-regulation Practice: awareness of own needs, ask kindly, ask partner what s/he
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This note was uploaded on 11/10/2011 for the course HDF 304 taught by Professor Gray during the Spring '08 term at University of Texas.
- Spring '08