10 Communication, Conflict, & Emotional Management - part 2

10 Communication, Conflict, & Emotional Management - part 2

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Unformatted text preview: Communication, Conflict, & Emotional Management Management Part 2 Gender Differences in Communication Communication Pursuit-withdrawal pattern Pursuit-withdrawal pattern Flooding & negative escalation Flooding increase Negative escalation: response w/ neg action to partner Increase in neg affect Physiological differences in the brain Differences in socialization Prevention Women – initiate w/ gentle startup Men – accepting of influence The Role of Humor and Communication Communication Campbell & colleagues (2008) Dating couples 2 types of humor Affiliative Aggressive Aggressive When people will say something funny/tell joke/engage in spontaneous witty When banter to amuse partner. Use to discillitate reltionship and reduce tension. Reduce tension in a way that affirms both partner, don’t both any paterner down. down. Use for purpose of manulipating someone, teasing, redicule, sarcasm. Use this Use time of humor as means of enhancing self at expense of other. Express humor w/o regard of impact of others. Results – affiliative humor Results Partners – individuals more satisfied w/ relationship Partners Self & Partner – increase perceived closeness; Self Partner- Better problem resolution following discussion. Partner- Emotional Management Emotional Emotional Dysregulation Neuropsychology Brain Brain 1. 1. 2. Prefrontal cortex: planning, logic and goal setting Amygdala: life-threatening emergencies Amygdala: Ex. Simple housework disagreement life threatening Ex. attack from enemy attack Unhappy couples unable to manage their Unhappy Primary emotions- frustration, disappointment, loneliness Secondary emotions– anger, depression, disgust, rage Secondary Emotional Management Emotional Steps to Emotional Regulation 1. Being Mindful 2. 2. Accepting and not judging Accepting 3. 3. Practice: sit quietly, notice breathing Practice: Practice: notice judgments, re-focus to notice breathing Practice: Self-regulation Practice: awareness of own needs, ask kindly, ask partner what s/he Practice: needs. Resources Resources Fighting for Your Marriage. A Lasting Promise. ...
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This note was uploaded on 11/10/2011 for the course HDF 304 taught by Professor Gray during the Spring '08 term at University of Texas.

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