Chapter 10 - Chapter 10 Liking a feeling of affection and...

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Chapter 10 Liking - a feeling of affection and respect that we typically have for our friends Affection - a sense of warmth and fondness toward another person Respect - admiration for another person apart from how they treat you and communicate with you Loving - a vastly deeper and more intense emotional commitment and consists of 3 components: intimacy, caring and attachment Intimacy - a feeling of closeness and union between you and your partner Caring - the concern you have for your partner’s welfare and the desire to keep them happy Attachment - a longing to be in your partner’s presence as much as possible Passionate love - a state of intense emotional and physical longing for union with another Passionate love is driven by idealization of partners People from all cultures feel passionate love No gender or age differences exist in people’s experience of passionate love For adults, passionate love is integrally linked with sexuality and sexual desire Passionate love is negatively related to relationship duration. The longer you are with your partner, the less intense your passionate love will feel. Companionate love - an intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives John Alan Lee’s 6 different forms of love (from friendly to obsessive): 1. Storge (friendly lovers)- love should be stable, predictable and rooted in friendship 2. Agape (forgiving lovers)- lover should be patient, selfless, giving and unconditional 3. Mania (obsessive lovers)- love should be intense, tumultuous, extreme and all-consuming 4. Pragma (practical lovers)- love should be logical, rational and founded in common sense 5. Ludus (game-playing lovers)- love should be uncommitted, fun and played like a game 6. Eros (romantic lovers)- love should be sentimental, romantic, idealistic and committed Mere exposure effect - you’ll feel more attracted to those with whom you have frequent contact and less attracted to those with whom you interact rarely Beautiful-is-good effect - we view more beautiful people as competent communicators, intelligent and well-adjusted Matching - we tend to form long term relationships with people we judge as similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness Birds-of-a-feather effect - we are attracted to those we perceive as similar to ourselves. People we view as similar to us are less likely to provoke uncertainty. Thus, we feel more comfortable with them. Social exchange theory
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This note was uploaded on 12/04/2011 for the course COM 225 taught by Professor Morrison during the Fall '08 term at Michigan State University.

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Chapter 10 - Chapter 10 Liking a feeling of affection and...

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