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Understanding Power in Relationships: Depends upon ability to change rewards and punishments. To increase power: (works in job too) 1. increase own alternatives – can go elsewhere 2. minimize rewards from other person 3. minimize effects of punishments from other (don’t react to hurtful statement) 4. emphasize hurt from other 5. make other feel guilty 6. build value of own behavior (“others think I did well”) 7. increase attempts to gain favor 8. emphasize better alternatives in past Good to see how power is being used, yet not forget Christian ideal is surrender power. Matt. 23:11 Eph. 5:21 Luke 22:24-26 Other factors in social exchange 1) Norms – small regularities (e.g. who reads newspaper first). Norms give security, lowers costs with more norms, more cohesiveness (if both agree) 2) Justice – balance of profit for both (but costs and rewards may vary) if give a lot, we expect a lot back. If receive a lot more than we give, tend to experience guilt, if give
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Unformatted text preview: more than receive = feel cheated. Balance produces stability. “To whom much is given, much is required” Luke 12:48 Friends will continue even if costly if highly rewarding. Weaknesses of exchange theory: Tends to overlook feelings, just observable behavior Profit motive. Christians need to emphasize giving. Yet we are influenced by what we get out of relationship. Self-centered. But can be good if put other person in center, instead of self. Value of exchange theory: See manipulation methods in counseling others Emphasize rewards in own marriage Understand communication a bit better (a different perspective) Analyze methods of control, occurs in dating & marriage Textbook Principle of lesser interest (Willard Waller) Comparison levels Sex differences in evaluating relational rewards Change of rewards and costs with time Equality vs. inequity Commitment and its consequences...
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This note was uploaded on 12/29/2011 for the course PSY 200 taught by Professor Miller during the Fall '10 term at SUNY Stony Brook.

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