Familypsych-page27 - (difficult with small kids Degree of intimacy can be estimated by amount of fun family has time together 3 realize

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Communication does not come easily in strong families – must work at it. (Swihart) Nonverbal – ability here is related to satisfaction in marriage. Observation trusted over content of words. Tone of voice, body language, silence, slammed door, dirty looks, etc. Sarcasm – tone negates content. Neurolinguistic programming – matching language of eyes (Norm Wright’s Communications book) Males often overlook nonverbals – so misunderstanding results. Shared meanings needed – do the words mean the same to spouse as do to me? Young children very literal (need to tailor language to developmental level) God drove Adam & Eve out of garden Suggestions for churches that want to help families communicate 1) need classes & training in churches over time, not weekend. Long range effect minimal for weekend enrichment seminar; if over 5 weeks more effective. Even 10 or 12 weeks better (SS quarter) 2) involve whole family – parents learn & then teach kids, or all family learning together
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Unformatted text preview: (difficult with small kids). Degree of intimacy can be estimated by amount of fun family has, time together. 3) realize feelings & own them “I feel” pounding on table yelling “I never get angry” 4) Rehearsal in family sessions – one person enacts or expresses, others only observe & later give feedback (Ungame – excellent) 5) realize differences in communicators – mostly non-verbal vs. highly verbal cultural men often struggle with verbal communication of feelings Express Appreciation (Stinett’s 4 th characteristic) Many sincere complements (many “look for the dirt & overlook the diamonds”) Strong families are diamond hunters Appreciation is deepest craving in human nature (Wm. James – author of 1 st general psychology text) Words tend to produce what they praise (reinforcing, & self-fulfilling) Transmits inclusiveness & cohesiveness How to express appreciation” (Collins) Talking (mealtimes are good time) “Blessing” the kids/adults...
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This note was uploaded on 12/29/2011 for the course PSY 200 taught by Professor Miller during the Fall '10 term at SUNY Stony Brook.

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