Parents, Coaches, and Kids’ Sports 2
Curbing Parental Sports Rage: Parental and Coach Conduct at Youth Sporting Events
A child’s world is full of violence.
It appears in video games, films, and TV
programs, and many parents in the hope of removing their children from some of this
violence are encouraging and sometimes pushing their children into participating in
Unfortunately, this same violence is creeping into Little League, Pee
Wee football, soccer, basketball, and hockey, in the form of the parents’ and coaches’
poor conduct and rage.
This violent behavior on the part of parents and coaches must be
curbed and we must bring back into the game the learning of the rules and skills of the
sport and a sense of good sportsmanship and values.
Some parents are losing sight of why these children are playing--and that to the
children is what they are doing: “playing.” Many parents come to their child’s practice or
game with their own agenda of win, win, win at all costs. The team winning, the points
scored, who is the big scorer: these are the issues that have replaced fun and
sportsmanship in the eyes of these parents.
These unreasonable expectations of winning,
not messing up, being the star player, and making mom and/or dad proud are everything.
“These parents expect perfection from their children, the coaches and the referees”
(Sachs, 2000, p.62). It no longer is for the kids. Maybe Mom or Dad were promising
athletes in their youth and for one reason or another were robbed of their hopes and are
pinning all of their own wants, needs, wishes, and “what ifs” on their child or children
The major problem seems to be that these parents are not considering
what the children want.
According to a “Kidthink” survey conducted by Jerry
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