Literature Review: Choosing a Spouse
Islam is clear on the kind of wife you should be seeking. The Prophet (SAW) said: "A
woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion;
so try to get one who is religious, may you be blessed." This specifically defines just what kind
of a companion we are seeking, for if we marry her for anything other than her religious piety,
our marriage is bound to fall into misery.
True, beauty and charm is hard to resist, yet beauty does not last forever and does not
guarantee you her obedience and religiousness. Financial status is dynamic, and so is worldly
status, yet religion strongly establishes a household, and it may be that through your intention of
marrying her for her religion, the rest is given to you anyway.
In another hadith, the Prophet
(SAW) said: "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the
pious woman." Nothing in this world is as valuable as a pious woman. This point has been
stressed many times by Rasulullah (SAW), who himself, when asked what three things he loved
the most, mentioned a pious woman. Once the following ayah was revealed: "They who hoard up
gold and silver and do not spend it in the way of Allah, unto them give tidings of a painful doom.
On that day when it will (all) be heated in the fire of Hell, and their foreheads and flanks and
their backs will be branded therewith (and it will be said to them):
'Here is what you hoarded for
yourselves, now taste of what you used to hoard' "[al-Taubah: 34-35]. Umar (RA) has been
quoted to say that, when this ayah was revealed, he approached the Prophet (SAW), submitting
that the ayah weighed heavily on the minds of the Sahaba. Rasulullah (SAW) replied that the best
thing to be treasured is the devoted wife who causes pleasure when seen, obeys orders instantly