Over the past few years, I've surveyed nearly 5,000people for books that help men and womenUuQ4fstaocJ bach other. During this fascinating process,nrr greatest surprise was the disconnect between menand women on modesD"-In recent decades, our culture has ramped up overtsexuality-suggesting it should be out there for all tosee-and has encouraged a "do what makes yOll feelgood" ethos. Each of those trends is toxic.Cultural Message #1:Nothing is wrong with overtsexuality.We have become desen-sitized to public displays ofsexualitythatwouldhavebeen unthinkahle rwo decadesago. Those displays are pri-marilyconveyedthroughwomen'sclothing-orthelack thereof.Walk throughany shopping mall or watch1V and you'll see ads shout-ing that it's fine for a womanto show off in skimpy linge-rie-and it's fine for a manto look.You'll see attractiveyoung men and women con-veying that low-rise jeans andspaghetti-strapmidrifftopsare not only fine, hut this kindof dress is also cool and fun.
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