Gender is defined by Judith Lober as an aspect of an individual’s life that represents theattitudes, feelings, and conducts that a particular culture acquaints with a person’s biologicalsex. Behaviour that is harmonious with cultural prospects is referred to as gender-normative;and behaviours that are viewed as mismatched with these expectations are said to establishgender non-conformity (Lober: 1994). Sexuality and gender go hand-in-hand because theyboth constitute what is ideologically mainstream association when it comes to the acceptednormal sexual behaviours taking into account heteronormativity and homosexuality. Thepurpose of this essay is to discover the controversies and challenges raised by the practice ofsexualities in Africa.We understand gender to be of a pervasive nature and as a result it is not even noticeablewhen it is created and reinforced within human interaction. This social life frames howwomen and men should interact with each other in their societies and subconsciouslyreinforces the generated ideas within their communities so as to degrade any otherbehaviour or life style that interferes with these mainstream ideas.As I have mentioned elsewhere in my work the systemic idea of gender is not somethingthat we are born with, nor is it an element that we inherently have, but it is rathersomething that we participate in and is something we perform in our daily living. Societytends to assume that gender is an effect of how one was brought up, together with socialnorms and the flexibility of a particular social system- while sex is said to be a product ofnature purely set by biology. The two components co-exist with one another as societal andhence fluid. Seale (2009) states that “Gender affects and is affected by social, political, and religiousforces.” This declaration emphasises the association between societal relations and theembedded and prolonged inherent ideas of gender. In an African context, an example ofthese inherent ideas that is: men are expected to support the family, and cannot be obligedto account for any of their actions has been passed on through the generations. Anotherexample and stereotype is that women are to ensure that the smooth running of the homesand are to accept themselves as inferior to men.
Furthermore, we are able to say that gender is a social construct that deliberately makes the