WK9notes - (slide 1)The previous eight weeks have been a...

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(slide 1)The previous eight weeks have been a time of growth for me. I have spent a substantive amount of time learning more about the person I am, the person I want to become, and the suggestions I must take if I am to become the person I know I can be. Over the next few minutes I will review what I have learned about love, hope, and happiness. As well as the changes I have implemented in my life because of this recent education. (slide 2) There are three possible styles of attachment developed in an early stage in life: secure attachment, avoidant attachment, and anxious attachment. These attachment styles are determined by the responsiveness of caregivers and tend to carry on throughout life. When I was growing up I had caregivers that tended to be cold and rejecting. This upbringing has caused me to find it difficult to trust others completely. Whenever someone tries to get close to me it makes me nervous and I have a tendency to push them away by any means necessary. However, the ability to identify my attachment style has allowed me the opportunity to get out of my comfort zone from time to time and proactively get closer to people on an emotional level. There are three known components that contribute to attachment. These components are closeness, care, and commitment. The closeness factor is not of an emotional sense, but of a physical one. Depending on the age of the person depends on the motives. An infant needs the closeness for security, whereas for adults sexual attraction is also a part of it. Care is the second characteristic, and this component emerges from closeness. How we are cared for is extremely important to us. Overtime sensitive and responsive care is more important and a better predictor that passionate attraction. Commitment is considered the glue that will hold a relationship together. It is this component that “makes the safe haven a base of security” (Bolt, 2004, p.25)
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The three contributing components of attachment are what make up love. Knowing what it takes to create a solid love allows me a better opportunity to foster a healthy and lasting relationship with my partner. (slide 3) According to the triangular theory of love by Robert Sternberg, there are three dimensions considered to be major components of love. These dimensions are passion, intimacy, and commitment. Passion tends to reflect romance, attraction, and sexual desire. Intimacy refers to trust, sharing of innermost thoughts, and feelings of overall closeness. Commitment is known as the decision to continue a long-lasting loving relationship. These dimensions combine in various ways to create different styles of love. These styles are consummate love, romantic love, companionate love, and fatuous love. Learning the dimensions of love as well as the different combinations; I was able to discover I am currently involved in a romantic love. Initially I was excited to discover this. However, upon further review I concluded that I strive to have a consummate love. A romantic love has intimacy and passion, but lacks commitment. A
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This note was uploaded on 02/23/2012 for the course PSY 220 taught by Professor Lind during the Spring '10 term at University of Phoenix.

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