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504 The key 78 Perhaps the old man or the old woman would pray for you in the darkness of the night." He would most certainly lower his head in shame as you speak and say, "Thank you very much. May Allah reward you." In this manner, you should try to deal with anyone whose manners need reformation. If you know of a person who takes his prayers lightly, or a father who doesn't care much about his daughters' appearance due to which they do not cover properly, or a young man who is disobedient to his parents, and you want to rectify their faults, then you must use the appropriate skills. Use kind words to correct others' faults. Be well-mannered and respectful towards their opinion. Tell them, "I am only advising you because I know you will accept my advice." Allah says in the Qur'an, "O you who believe! When you consult the Messenger in private, spend something in charity before your private consultation." The wise educator, the Prophet , would offer advice so skilfully that the people would have no choice but to accept the advice. Once, he decided to teach Mu'adh some words he wanted him to say after the prayers in remembrance of Allah. He turned to Mu'adh and said, "By Allah, I love you! So please do not forget to say at the end of each prayer, `O Allah, help me to remember you, thank you, and worship you in the finest manner." I ask you by Allah, what is the connection between the first part of the Prophet's speech, "By Allah, I love you...", and the second part of his speech, "Do not forget to say, O Allah! Help me to remember you."? 505 The key 78 Perhaps it would have been more appropriate when he had said, "I love you..." to say, "...and I would like you to marry my daughter" for example, or, "I want to give you some wealth", or, "I want to invite you over for dinner." However, after informing him that he loved him, he taught him instead to say a few words in Allah's remembrance! This surely deserves contemplation....
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