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Unformatted text preview: for people while meeting them. Another is that their minds are preoccupied whilst meeting and asking others' their names such that they are unable to focus when they mention their names. Another factor is their own attitude towards the person they are meeting. Because you believe that you probably will not meet him 177 Remember names 26 again, you deem it unnecessary to remember the name. Or if the person is very ordinary, and does not affect you enough to catch your attention. Sometimes, you do not get to hear the name properly, and feel embarrassed to ask him to repeat himself. These are some of the reasons people do not remember names. There are several ways of curing this problem of not being able to remember names. One is to realise the importance of remembering people's names, and to feel that once you have heard their names, you would be asked to repeat them after a few minutes. Another way is to focus on a person's face while listening to his name. Try to make note of the person in front of you, how he talks and smiles, such that it leaves an impression in your memory. As you speak to him, refer to him by his name repeatedly, "...isn't that right, so-and-so?", "...did you hear that, so-and-so?", or "...do you follow me, so-and-so?" Repeat it more than once. This is very important, for if you were to contemplate the Qur'an, you would find that Allah, the Mighty and Majestic, refers to His Prophets by their names: "O Abraham! Turn away from them..." "O Noah! He is not from your family" "O David! We have made you a deputy on this earth" In short Show me that you have concern for me by remembering my name, and refer to me by it... and I would surely love you.
178 (27) Be observant and complimentary Many of the things we do in life are actually done for others and not for ourselves. When you are invited to a wedding party, you wear your best clothes. You do this in order to attract people's attention and to amaze them with y...
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