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Unformatted text preview: tly is the illness? Please clarify what you said" and so on. Why the need to embarrass him? From the excellence of one's Islam is to leave that which does not concern him. I mean, are you really waiting for him to tell you, "I have haemorrhoids", or "I have an injury, in an embarrassing place", etc? As long as he gave you a vague response, there is no need to ask him for details. I do not mean that he should not question the patient about his illness. What I mean is that one should not ask detailed questions about another's illness. Another example of this is a person who called out to a student in front of all the people in a public gathering, and asked in a loud voice, "Hey! Ahmad! Did you pass?" Ahmad said, "Yes'. He asked, "What percentage? What grade?" If he truly cared for him, he would have asked him when he was alone. There was also no need to go into details by asking "What percentage? Why didn't you revise? Why weren't you accepted in the university?" If he was really ready to help him, then he could have taken him to the side and spoken to him about whatever he liked. But as for displaying his dirty laundry in public, then that certainly was not genuine! The Prophet said,"From the excellence of one's Islam is to leave that which does not concern him."
193 Do not interfere in matters that do not concern you 29 However, be careful. Do not make a matter larger than it is. Once I was travelling to Madinah and was busy delivering a number of lectures. So I agreed with a kind young man to take my two sons, `Abd ar-Rahman and Ibrahim, after `Asr, to their Qur'an memorisation circles, or some summer amusement centre, and to return with them after `Isha. `Abd ar-Rahman was ten years old. I feared that that young man may ask him some useless questions, such as, "What is your mother's name? Where is your house? How many brothers do you have? How much pocket money does your father give you?" So I warned `Abd ar-Rahman and said, "If he were to ask you an inappropri...
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- Spring '12