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Unformatted text preview: and make him feel that he is valued, even if he makes mistakes. Do you know why? Because the objective here is to correct the error, and not to take revenge or dishonour him. Meaning, dear reader, to say it plainly, no one likes to be ordered around. Look at the Prophet's approach in this regard. One day he decided to advise `Abdullah bin `Umar to pray the night prayers.
378 Make your tongue sweet 55 He did not call him and say, "O `Abdullah, pray the night prayer!" Rather, he advised him as if he was making a suggestion saying, "How nice is `Abdullah! If only he were to pray the night prayers also!" In another narration he said, "O `Abdullah, do not be like so-and-so. He used to pray at night, but then he left it." In fact, if you are able to bring his mistake to his attention without him realising, then this is the best approach. A man sneezed in the company of `Abdullah bin al-Mubarak but did not say: `al-Hamdulillah'. So `Abdullah bin al-Mubarak said, "What does a person say when he sneezes?" He said, "al-Hamdulillah." `Abdullah bin al-Mubarak said, "YarhamukAllah" (May Allah have mercy on you). The Prophet had a similar approach. When he would conclude his `Asr prayer, he would visit his wives one-by-one to sit and talk with them. Once he visited Zaynab bint Jahsh and found honey with her. The Prophet used to love honey and other sweets. He began to drink honey and talk to her, and ended up staying with her for longer than he would stay with anyone else. Thereupon, `A'ishah and Hafsah became jealous and planned that whoever of the two the Prophet visits should say, "I find that you smell of Maghafir!" Maghafir is a sweet drink, similar to honey but has an unpleasant smell. The Prophet was always concerned that his body or mouth did not smell bad, as he used to speak with Jibril and the people. When he visited Hafsah she asked him what he had eaten. He said, "I had some honey to drink when I visited Zaynab."
379 Make your tongue sweet 55 She said, "I find the smell of...
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This note was uploaded on 03/19/2012 for the course REL 101 taught by Professor Professorsunni during the Spring '12 term at N.C. State.
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