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My critical application paper will focus on the stressor of my family losing my father to a terminal illness. In July of 2013, my father was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma in Wilmington, California. This sudden life threatening diagnosis disrupted our family’s equilibrium. For the next four years we stood by and supported my father while he fought this disease through countless doctor visits and intense chemotherapies until he was granted a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately these efforts were not enough and his body was nonresponsive to the treatment. On January 3, 2017, doctors informed my father that his cancer reached stage 4 and he only had a month left to live. His body was rapidly deteriorating that he had to be put in hospice care. The normative event that affected our family was preparing and coping with my father’s death. In this paper, I will describe my family dynamic during the stressor using Olson’s Circumplex model. I will also use the Lipman-Blumen criteria to describe the stressor, examine how culture and gender affect how a family deals with the stressor, and apply the simple ABCx model to analyze how my family coped with the stress. To begin with, I will provide some background information such as the personality types on the people in my family who were affected by this stressor. My immediate family consists of my father, my mother, my older sister, my younger sister, and myself. At the time, my father was 53 years old. Although my whole life I always perceived him to be a social and hardworking man, during this time my father was depressed and bedridden. Being unable to care for himself really took a toll on his pride because he hated being limited to the outside world and feeling like a burden to his family. He became very quiet and was prone to anger during this time. On the other hand, my mother who was 56 years old, was our rock that held our family together. She was
always a reserved and resilient person who knew how to hold her composure around us to keep her family strong. She also began to work to make sure our family was financially stable. My older sister, who was 26 at the time, was a natural born leader who was very flexible and sympathetic to my father’s needs. Her CNA experience in helping elderly patients in hospitals made her act as the main nurturer to my father. On the other hand, my little sister who was 21 years old was the most sensitive out of all of us because she had the closest bond with my father. She would try to avoid seeing my father in that state by going out with her friends. As for myself, I was 24 and found myself being the comforter to my family by constantly checking in on all my siblings and remaining positive through out the stress.

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