Onefriendruleforchildrenwithdifficulties

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Unformatted text preview: . When I am in the car listening to music, I often check other stations to see if something better is playing, even if I’m satisfied with what I’m listening to. I often find it difficult to shop for a gift for a friend Renting videos is really difficult. I’m always struggling to pick the best one. I’m a big fan of lists that attempt to rank things. I find writing is very difficult. It’s so hard to get the words just right. No matter what I do, I have the highest standards for myself. Maximizers… Maximizers… • • • • • More regret after purchase Less satisfaction from success Less satisfied with life Less optimistic More depressed Toxic Thoughts: Perfectionism Toxic Thoughts: Perfectionism • Parents who praise for being perfect rather than effort, hard work (Dweck) • Priming the “ideal self” leads to dejection • Perfectionism in young women (Hinshaw, The Triple Bind) – Beautiful – Powerful, athletic – Smart Keeping up with the Jonses Keeping up with the Jonses • Social Comparison (Festinger, 1954) • Upward social comparisons lead to dissatisfaction, dejection • Very happy people rarely compare themselves to others (Lyubomirsky) Toxic Thoughts: Distrust Toxic Thoughts: Distrust • Cynicism and the Decline of Trust (Paul 70 60 50 40 30 il ra z B e x ic A M U S In d ia in G a e r m a n y T a iw a n C h rw a 0 y 10 o G S h a o u n th a A fr P ic h il a ip p in e s 20 N o Trust i n fel l ow ci ti z ens Zak) • High trust cultures less crime, inequality • For every 15% rise in trust, a rise in $430 End of Sec tion 1 End of Sec tion 1 Culture of Fear (Glassner) Culture of Fear (Glassner) • Teen killers rather than teen health • • • • – Teen violence down 30% Catholic priest pedophiles Kidnapped children Violence Road rage rather than teen drunk driving Markets and Materialism Markets and Materialism • Trade a basic human instinct (M. Ridley, • • • • The Rational Optimist) Trade a source of innovation Trade links...
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