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Unformatted text preview: e likely to forgive More likely to be optimistic More likely to offer social support to romantic partner • The problems of anxiously attached partners – – – More prone to depression, anxiety More prone to drug abuse More prone to eating disorders Romantic Pair Bond Romantic Pair Bond • • • Human Universal: A basic relationship 90­95% of Americans marry Marriage a universal – Although changed in forms functions – Economic exchange to love based – Pairbonding, serial monogamy • Not faring well • • • LOVE DESIRE HAPPY Z.O. Par Z.O. Par Z.O. Par ______________________________________ _ • Affiliation cues • Self­report Partner Estimate • • • .26* .25* .28* .21* .06 .17 ­.11 .05 .17 .10 .04 .00 Sexual Cues Self­report Partner Estimate ­.01 ­.01 ­.19 ­.17 .30* .31* .34** .34** ­.03 ­.04 ­23* ­.07 • ______________________________________ _ • • • • • • Affiliation Cues Contr. for Sexual Cues Sexual Cues Contr. for Affiliation Cues __________________________________________________ Oxytocin Reactivity .50** .11 Oxytocin Recovery .15 .12 __________________________________________________ A Need for Many kinds of Love A Need for Many kinds of Love • Compassionate care­giving • 12 10 8 Experience of Love • produces secure attachments in children Compassion for partner’s weaknesses, needs predicts long­term satisfaction Compassionate sacrifice (to enhance partner’s welfare) predicts stable marriages; anxious sacrifices (to avoid problems) predicts dissatisfaction 6 4 2 0 Parent-Child exual Desire S Romantic For Humanity 2 10 1 0 4 4 10 1 2 5 6 9 1 3 6 8 8 1 4 7 10 7 1 5 7 12 6 1 5 8 14 5 7 6 8 16 4 8 7 9 18 5 9 8 9 6 10 202 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 20 25 9 9.1 25 7 9 10 9.2 Age 30 8 8 9 9.3 35 9 7 8 9.4 40 9.1 6 7 9.5 45 9.2 5 6 9.6 50 9.3 4 5 9.7 60 9.4 3 6 9.8 70 9.5 3 7 9.9 80 9.6 2 8 10 90 9.7 2 9 10 Parent-Child Sexual Desire Romantic For Humanity 30 35 40 45 50 60 70 80 90 Demographic perspective Demographic perspective • Happy romantic partnerships when – Marry at a later age – SES – Neuroticism The Dynamic Interaction Style The Dynamic Interaction Style Perspective • Naturalistic methods • The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse ­Contempt ­Criticism ­Stonewalling ­Defensiveness Beyond 15%: Toward the magical 5 Beyond 15%: Toward the magical 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative • Humor: playful nicknames, laughter and escapes from negat...
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This note was uploaded on 11/19/2012 for the course PSYCHOLOGY 162 taught by Professor Keltner during the Spring '12 term at University of California, Berkeley.

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