p.a.p.a. Student Workbook page • 43INTRODUCTIONIn an earlier session, you learned about parenting as a team. You saw what happens when parents separate and allow bad feelings about their relationship to affect their child. However, when parents recognize they share the goal of raising a healthy and happy child, they can learn to communicate and cooperate as a team. In this session, you’ll do some thinking about relationships. You’ve experienced many kinds of relationships in your life – friendships, family relationships, teacher-stu-dent relationships, and so on. When it comes to romantic relationships, there’s probably tremendous varia-tion among you and your peers. Some people have been dating for a while, while others haven’t even thought about it. It’s normal for people to have had different levels of experience with romantic relationships. Each person is an individual with different interests, personalities, families and cultural backgrounds. Regardless of your personal experience, working through this section of the student workbook will increase your awareness of what’s involved in creating healthy relationships. It will also help you be more aware of things that are important to you. This is information you might be able to apply in your life right now…or you might store it away and put it to use later.What makes a relationship healthy? Think over all the relationships you’ve read about in this program. Which of those relationships were healthy? What are the factors to consider when determining if a relationship is healthy or not?ACTIVITY: The Relation-SHIPImagine that a relationship is like a ship floating on waves and rough waters. What are the characteristics in the relation-SHIP that would keep it afloat? For example, mutual trust is very important. Each person in a relation-SHIP must trust the other to do what he or she says, to be honest, and to maintain confidences. Trust is something that’s earned. You have to find out over time if a person is trustworthy. And it must be mutual – meaning it must go both ways. You must be trustworthy and your partner must be trustworthy. Mutual trust is already on the list below. List other characteristics that would help keep a relation-SHIP afloat:1. Mutual Trust5. 2. 6. 3. 7. 4. 8. Now that you’ve written your list, consider the following. How do the two lists compare?SESSION 9: CHOOSING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
p.a.p.a. Student Workbook page • 44CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY DATING RELATIONSHIPS1. Respect. This starts with respecting yourself and knowing your own worth. It also means accepting each other’s opinions, values, limits, need for individual time, and so on.2. Equality. This is at the center of a healthy dating relationship. Power is balanced in the relationship.