Interpersonal Communication Final Exam Review

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Good relationships have lots of both Successful Narrative Most rigid Most loose Good fighting Interpersonal Communication Final Exam Review Enduring Relationships I. Characteristics a. Variability i. Get to know them in a wide variety of contexts ii. Meeting the parents Duration iii. Extended periods of time iv. Long distance = high duration/low frequency b. Frequency i. How often you see them c. Revelation i. Tell them what you won’t tell most people ii. Self disclosure of intimate details d. Meshing i. Symmetry and complimentary e. Mutually interdependent i. Trust each other to fill certain rules f. Anxiety reduction (security) i. “everything’s going to be ok” g. Proximity i. Physical distance from each other h. Relationships are systemic i. You try to fix one thing, it screws up everything else
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ii. Cannot separate system i. i. It’s go to keep going – momentum ii. Know where it’s going to be – trajectory j. i. Rituals are punctuation marks of our lives ii. Rituals tells us something changed in our lives iii. Families are defined by rituals (and relationships) iv. Return the move k. Intimacy i. Physical ii. Social l. History i. When things are tough, history brings comfort II. Relational contradictions a. Idealization vs. realization i. What other people see/what people close to you see b. Dependence vs. independence i. Swim team/basketball team c. Honestly vs. dishonesty i. Surprises ii. What you can/cannot lie about d. Optimality vs. satisfaction i. Enemy of good is best ii. Perfect vs. good enough
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e. Love vs. comfort (good roommate) f. Altruism vs. selfishness (what’s right for them/for you) g. Privacy vs. openness i. Diary ii. Having no one around h. Happiness vs. non-happiness i. Unhappy not happy ii. Not love hate i. Attention vs. smothering i. Nee attention but also independence ii. Families I. Politeness defined a. Way of treating people b. Saying and doing things in way that takes another person’s feelings into account c. More complicated than communication that doesn’t take other’s feelings into account II. When are we polite? a. Unwelcome communication i. Unwelcome news, reminder of a fact, asked to cooperate ex. Requests b. Long-term relations i. Maintaining ongoing relationships ex. Greetings III. Why are we polite? a. Other is socially superior (upward) b. Other is socially distant (horizontal) – not as familiar c. Act is face-threatening i. Affect the way the person feels about themselves
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IV. Face: what is it? a. Negative face: desire to be autonomous, acting freely b. Positive face: desire to be liked and admired V. 5 strategies for face saving a. Don’t do the face threatening act (FTA) b. Do the FTA “off-record” c. Use positive politeness d. Use negative politeness e. Be direct; “bald-on record” VI. Off-record a. Indirect statements that remove the speaker from the FTA – hinting, vague responses, joking
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This note was uploaded on 04/07/2008 for the course CMS 315M taught by Professor Daly during the Fall '07 term at University of Texas.

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