Marriage and the Family

Are you both committed to growth are you willing to

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Unformatted text preview: ion? • Are your socioeconomic backgrounds similar? • How do your values and tastes compare in terms of religion, politics, music, art, and types of people? CHOOSING A COMPATIBLE INTIMATE • Do you like and respect yourself? Do you and your would-be partner have high levels of self-esteem? • Are you both committed to growth? Are you willing to expand your world, to learn more about yourself, others, new ideas, and new activities? CHOOSING A COMPATIBLE INTIMATE • Do you and/or your would-be partner insist on making the final decision or having the last word? Can you collaborate? • Are your energy levels comparable? Do you like to laze around in the house while the other person wants to be on the go constantly? CHOOSING A COMPATIBLE INTIMATE • Can the two of you communicate positive and negative feelings? Can you really listen to each other? • Are you both comfortable with expressing your feelings and thoughts? What do the two of you really want and expect of a relationship with each other? BEGIN SECOND TEST MATERIAL PARIS IN THE THE SPRING BIRD IN THE THE HAND ONCE IN A A LIFETIME SEXUAL WISDOM • Sexual temptations abound in our culture. • Images of sexually explicit scenes on television, at the theater, and in advertising abound. • Some of the Bible’s greatest spiritual leaders like David and Solomon fell prey to immorality, adultery, polygamy, etc. SEXUAL WISDOM • If Solomon did so poorly in this area, why should we listen to him? • Two reasons: – He spoke from great experience and knew of the tragedy of unbridled sexual lust. – He spoke by the wisdom and inspiration of God. SEXUAL WISDOM • The sexual revolution of the 1960’s promoted sex as a cheap commodity. • The terms “promiscuous” and “illegitimate” regarding sex have basically disappeared. • With widespread sanctions of sexual permissiveness has come a new terminology – “immoral” now “sexually active”; “homosexual” now “gay; “adultery” now an “affair”; “pornography” now “adult entertainment”. SEXUAL WISDOM • Proverbs warns of the illegitimate use of sex with a portrait of a naïve man’s encounter with an immoral woman(7:6-23). • Scripture shows he lacked: – – – – Information or understanding of God’s law. Thoughtful interaction with God’s word. Willingness to be warned by its truth. Judgment – he put himself near her corner (vs.7,8) SEXUAL WISDOM • This young man had not counted on this woman’s ability to appeal to his ego as well as his senses: – With passionate kisses v. 13. – With flattering words v. 15. – With a little spiritual lingo v. 14. – With fantasy vs. 16-20. SEXUAL WISDOM • Proverbs shows how difficult it is to envision the consequences of our actions. • Proverbs 5:3-5 – “For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet to down to death, her steps lay old of hell.” SEXUAL WISDOM • The consequences of immorality are inevitable and unavoidable. It doesn’t matter who one is – it is “pay day some day”. • We need to learn that anyone who tempts us to have sex outside marriage will stimulate our imagination, promise us forbidden pleasures, appeal to our eyes, meet our needs, understand our hurts. SEXUAL WISDOM • The tempters offer secrecy and promise safety. • In the midst of temptation it is difficult to see and understand the consequences – a blindness sets in, and a dumb ignorance leads to actions that would be unthinkable at any other time. SEXUAL WISDOM • Though physical death may not always be the outcome, spiritual death always will be. • A person involved in an adulterous relationship will be drained in such a way that the most important things (marriage vows, parental responsibilities, moral purity, etc.) will take a back seat to living for the moment, maintaining emotional intensity, and protecting reputations. SEXUAL WISDOM • Our culture does not paint this picture, instead we are urged to live for the passion of the moment, to let out glands be our guide, and to give no thought to the outcome. • Scripture proves this wrong – Proverbs 6:27-29 – “Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent.” SEXUAL WISDOM • In Proverbs the temptress beckons, “Come let us take our fill of love until morning; let us delight ourselves with love.” • This however was deception – The wise man goes on to warn, “He did not know it would take his life”. SEXUAL WISDOM • No matter how we try to...
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