Lecture 6 PSY220 Attraction & Relationships (2013) WHITE

Commitment sa3sfac3on how happy are you in this

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Unformatted text preview: me. I don’t o^en worry about being abandoned or about someone gemng too close. Anxious Style I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I o^en worry that my partner doesn’t really love me or won’t stay with me. I want to merge completely with another person, and this desire some0mes scares people away. Avoidant Style I am somewhat uncomfortable being close. I find it difficult to trust completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on anyone. I am nervous when anyone gets close, and o^en, roman0c partners want me to be more in0mate than I feel comfortable being. Why Care? •  Our a.achment style influences our thoughts, emo0ons, and behaviours in rela0onships •  Secure: more sa0sfied, posi0ve a.ribu0ons for partner’s behaviour •  Anxious: hypervigilant; interpret rela0onship events in a threatening manner •  Avoidant: less physically affec0onate, wary of closeness and in0macy Airport Study •  Roman0c couples observed as they said goodbye at airports •  Avoidant partners sought less physical contact, embraced and held hands less •  Anxious partners expressed more fear and sadness Adap3ve or Maladap3ve? •  Anxious and avoidant a.achment are adap0ve responses to the type of care that people received (i.e., it’s not safe to trust someone who is unreliable) •  Problems can arise when we carry them forward into new rela0onships Break Plan...
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