Chapter 10

The i message also allows the speaker to accept

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Unformatted text preview: ple, you might begin by saying, “When you are late to class...” or “When you criticize Sally...” The next part of the I-message is a statement of the tangible effect of that behavior for other people. For example, you might say, “When you are late to class, it interrupts our lesson...” or “When 43 you criticize Sally, it hurts her feelings...” The final part is a statement about the feelings associated with the behavior and its effects. For example, the complete Imessages in our examples are, “When you are late to class, it interrupts my lesson, and I feel frustrated.” When you criticize Sally, it hurts her feelings, and she and I feel angry with you.” The I-message is less threatening because you are focusing on what you have observed, rather than on making value judgments about the person. The I-message also allows the speaker to accept responsibility for her or his feelings (Warnemuende, 2000). Principle 5.2: Cognitive Developmental Levels Of the Learners. A const...
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