Males and females have evolved different love acts Males attract females by

Males and females have evolved different love acts

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Males and females have evolved different love acts. Males attract females by showing off wealth and status whereas females attract males by displaying their youth, health, and beauty. Primary love styles more basic Secondary love styles are kind of like the primary ones put together Finding someone with a similar love style Depends on kind of loving not how much loving Mutual and satisfying love may not be long lasting Individuals love preferences may change over time Eros- love of beautiy, physical attraction Storge- slow burning, comes naturally, sex occurs late, shared activities, affectionate Ludus- carefree and casual love “fun and games” physical appearance less important, nondemanding partner Secondary love styles:
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Mania- obsessiveness, jealousy Pragma- rational loved, practicality, compatibility Agape- self sacrificing love, self-giving love where partners help each other, never jealous or demanding, does not seek reciprocity Today it is harder to find someone with your love style or life style than it was before “Triangulating Love” Robert J. Sternberg Love can vary in intimacy (feelings and closeness), passion (romance and sexual things), commitment (love each other long term and maintain it) Nonlove- all absent Consummate love- all present balanced love Love components: love is made up of three main components, namely: Intimacy encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bonding. Passion leads to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation. Decision/commitment a decision to love each other and in the long term, they make a commitment to maintain that love over time. The amount of intensity of love in a relationship can be understood in terms of the area of the triangle and the balance of love in the relationship can be understood in terms of the shape of the triangle. Greater discrepancies in size or shape of the various triangles tend to be associated with lesser satisfaction in relationships. Happiness in relationships must be based upon different configurations of mutual feelings at various times in that relationship. This theory suggests we must constantly work at understanding, building, and rebuilding our loving relationships. They are constructions that decay over time if they are not maintained and improved. “An All Consuming Love” Eva Illouz Modern romance draws from religious rituals
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Interactions become romantic when 4 kinds of symbolic boundaries are set Temporal (time of day when romantic things happen- night is romantic time and private time) this is associated with geographic boundaries and being secluded, emotional (heightening of emotions is main part of experience, romance is and should be different from daily life), spatial (going on vacation to a different country makes vacation more romantic because away from home life), artificial (buying clothes and expensive meals for each other are associated with romance) “Orgasm” Juliet Ricthers Orgasm is a muscular contraction in response to sexual
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