Coming up on a day that signals more love and it points out preexisting

Coming up on a day that signals more love and it

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Coming up on a day that signals more love and it points out preexisting problems Found evidence for catalyst Interdependence The way interacting individuals influence the experiences of each other via their behaviors… Yields outcomes for the individuals involved What are outcomes? Goals or needs fulfilled in relationship Wanting to get married Costs vs. rewards Support, company, compassion, physical and emotional affection
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Cost: time, money, emotional stressor Sacrifice Can be idiosyncratic Companionship, emotional involvement Intimacy, physical Security Material gifts Costs Interdependent – we compare our outcomes to our comparison level What we think a relationship should be What we expect a relationship to give us Comparison level Expectations The quality of outcomes one expects from a relationship Past relationship Other’s relationship (social comparison) Media Media shows passionate love not so much companionship Gossip Girl – everyone wants to see Blair and Chuck get together, but once they get together no one cares anymore Culture Interdependence We also compare our outcomes to our comparison level for alternatives (clair) = outcomes perceived to be suitable elsewhere Satisfaction Outcomes (more than or equal to) CL = satisfaction Getting what and more than you expect Dependence Outcomes (more than or equal) to alternative outcomes = dependence Degree to which one relies on a relationship for outcomes Can needs be fulfilled by other interactions? Different types of relationships Somewhat satisfied (somewhat dependent) Very dependent (somewhat satisfied) Involuntary dependence Unstable (celeb relationships) Commitment Affective Feeling attached, positive emotion Behavioral Intent to persist Enact pro-relationship behaviors Cognitive Long-term orientation Thinking about the dyed (cognitive interdependence) The more times you use it, the more cognitive
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interdependent The more people are cognitively interdependent than the more likely they are to stay together Investment model (Rusbult 1980) Cost vs. rewards = outcomes Expectations (CL) Outcomes (more than or equal to) CL No longer have pictures during the time period you dated – you lose all that time Thursday, Feb 16 2012 - Investment Model (1980) [Rusbult] o Investments § Don’t see the period of time where the partner was with another person § Current/ex partners huge period of time that is lost - Commitment & Consequences o Diagram
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o WHY PEOPLE Stay/Leave § Ex: Hillary Clinton · Investments: Mr & Mrs are intertwined · Time/Hardship o Perspective Taking · More committed the better people are at this o Applications: § People’s dedication to one candidate § Marketing and restaurants · Accommodations o Supplanting ones’ needs for anothers’ needs § Sacrificing something you want for something they want o
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