Coming up on a day that signals more love and it points out preexisting problems ■ Found evidence for catalyst ● Interdependence ○ The way interacting individuals influence the experiences of each other via their behaviors… ■ Yields outcomes for the individuals involved ● What are outcomes? ○ Goals or needs fulfilled in relationship ■ Wanting to get married ○ Costs vs. rewards ■ Support, company, compassion, physical and emotional affection
■ Cost: time, money, emotional stressor Sacrifice ● Can be idiosyncratic ○ Companionship, emotional involvement ○ Intimacy, physical ○ Security ○ Material gifts ○ Costs ● Interdependent – we compare our outcomes to our comparison level ○ What we think a relationship should be ○ What we expect a relationship to give us ● Comparison level ○ Expectations ○ The quality of outcomes one expects from a relationship ■ Past relationship ■ Other’s relationship (social comparison) ■ Media ● Media shows passionate love not so much companionship ● Gossip Girl – everyone wants to see Blair and Chuck get together, but once they get together no one cares anymore ■ Culture ● Interdependence ○ We also compare our outcomes to our comparison level for alternatives (clair) = outcomes perceived to be suitable elsewhere ● Satisfaction ○ Outcomes (more than or equal to) CL = satisfaction ○ Getting what and more than you expect ● Dependence ○ Outcomes (more than or equal) to alternative outcomes = dependence ○ Degree to which one relies on a relationship for outcomes ○ Can needs be fulfilled by other interactions? ● Different types of relationships ○ Somewhat satisfied (somewhat dependent) ○ Very dependent (somewhat satisfied) ○ Involuntary dependence ○ Unstable (celeb relationships) ● Commitment ○ Affective ■ Feeling attached, positive emotion ○ Behavioral ■ Intent to persist ■ Enact pro-relationship behaviors ○ Cognitive ■ Long-term orientation ■ Thinking about the dyed (cognitive interdependence) ● The more times you use it, the more cognitive
interdependent ● The more people are cognitively interdependent than the more likely they are to stay together ● Investment model (Rusbult 1980) ○ Cost vs. rewards = outcomes ○ Expectations (CL) ○ Outcomes (more than or equal to) CL No longer have pictures during the time period you dated – you lose all that time Thursday, Feb 16 2012 - Investment Model (1980) [Rusbult] o Investments § Don’t see the period of time where the partner was with another person § Current/ex partners huge period of time that is lost - Commitment & Consequences o Diagram
o WHY PEOPLE Stay/Leave § Ex: Hillary Clinton · Investments: Mr & Mrs are intertwined · Time/Hardship o Perspective Taking · More committed the better people are at this o Applications: § People’s dedication to one candidate § Marketing and restaurants · Accommodations o Supplanting ones’ needs for anothers’ needs § Sacrificing something you want for something they want o
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