affective (feeling) forecasting (prediction) answer to “how bad would it be if you & your partner broke up?” people generally predict pain to be much worse than actually does people who are “in love” predicted way worse than actual people not “in love” almost spot on prediction SelfConcept clarity: extension of sense of self who you are outside of ended relationship is not as clear after selves bonded lacking of selfconcept clarity no longer sure of who you are after a breakup after modal wave 6 slope of selfconcept clarity can predict emotional distress that’s what makes breakups so painful Divorce Statistics: by years by race by gender and education Divorce: 50% of divorces happen in first 7 years factors leading to divorce: transition to parenthood illness, job loss, tragedy Metaanalysis: divorce & separation have a high association with: increased mortality (especially for men) negative health behaviors (smoking, drinking) thought intrusion higher blood pressure negative thoughts popping into your head throughout the day Subjective construal & coping both men & women see themselves more positively & each other more negatively partners rated themselves more positively, more victim & less villain, more willing to reconcile than spouse women seen by both as having more control over breakup more you see the spouse as in control, the less adjusted, happy, and at ease with breakup Consequences for adults:
Negative effects: economic probs (particularly for women) shortterm locus of control switch shortterm lowered happiness psychological distress poorer selfconcepts health problems mortality Positive effects: autonomy & personal growth improvements in women’s career opps & social lives women: greater selfconfidence & sense of control men: greater interpersonal skills & greater willingness to selfdisclose Repartnering: Key tasks: evaluate personal readiness for new relationship develop criteria and strategies for selecting partners determine relative weight afforded to child concerns Moving toward marriage: remarriage rates: 85% eventually, ½ within 3 years cohabitation more common after divorce Rewards of remarriage: compared to first: matured knowing each other better communicate more openly more considerate enjoy new interest and friends 10/22/15 Stress & Own Marital WellBeing: SpillOver Effects stress spillover: increases in external stress predict decreases in one’s own relationship satisfaction spouses facing more severe stress experience greater declines in marital satisfaction over time on days of greater stress, individuals report less accepting views of family members satisfaction is higher during periods of low stress and lower during periods of high stress TwoRoute Model of Stress Effects Route 1: Content of the relationship
stress gives rise to relationship issues
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