The person who is over benefited is less sensitive to

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The person who is over-benefited is less sensitive to the inequity Those who perceived inequity also felt more distressed and depressed
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During the child-rearing years When wives often feel under-benefited and husbands over-benefited Marital satisfaction tends to dip During the honeymoon and empty-nest stages Spouses are more likely to perceive equity Feel satisfaction with their marriages (Feeney & others, 1994) Perceived inequity triggers marital distress (Grote & Clark, 2001) The traffic between inequity and distress runs both ways Marita distress exacerbates the perception of unfairness o Communal relationships Partners suspend their need for equity and exchange Giving support to the partner in order to meet his or her needs Without consideration of the costs to themselves o Exchange relationships Each of the partners keeps track of his or her contributions to the partnership - Interdependence and commitment o Investment model of relationships (Rusbult, 1986) Commitment to the relationship Satisfaction Investment Alternatives - Self-disclosure o Revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others o As a relationship grows Self-disclosing partners reveal more and more of themselves to each other Their knowledge of each other penetrates to deeper and deeper levels o Not only do we like those who disclose Also disclose to those whom we like After disclosing to them we like them more (Collins & Miller, 1994) o Disclosure reciprocity Tendency for one person’s intimacy of self-disclosure to match that of a conversational partner Disclosure begets disclosure (Berg, 1987; Miller, 1990; Reis & Shaver, 1988) We reveal more to those who have been open with us o Some people, most of them women, are especially skilled openers Easily elicit intimate disclosures from others
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Even from those who normally don’t reveal very much of themselves Such people tend to be good listeners Growth-promoting listeners (Rogers, 1980) Genuine in revealing their own feelings Who are accepting of others’ feelings Who are empathic, sensitive, reflective listeners o Dropping our masks, letting ourselves be known as we are, nurtures love (Jourard, 1964) It is gratifying to open up to another and then to receive the trust another implies by being open with us Having an intimate friend with whom we can discuss threats to our self-image seems to help us survive stress (Swann & Predmore, 1985) o Intimate self-disclosure is one of companionate love’s delights The most self-revealing dating and married couples Tend to enjoy the most satisfying and enduring relationships (Berg & McQuinn, 1986; Hendrick & others, 1988; Sprecher, 1987) o Women are often more willing to disclose their fears and weaknesses than are men (Cunningham, 1981) o Essence of love (Aron & Aron, 1994) Two selves connecting, disclosing, and identifying with each other Two selves, each retaining their individuality, yet sharing
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