- Dutton & Aron (1974)- the Capilano suspension bridge experiment; the shaky bridge study; feelings on shaky bridge similar to aroused state; shaky bridge more likely to write sexual references/connotations; counterpoint is maybe risk takers are more likely to do stuff like that anyway§ How does proximity play a role in our romantic relationships and friendships?Our friendships and romances grow out of interactions w/ those who are nearby because...-People become familiar-It’s convenient-Easier to enjoy rewards§ Similarity:
4o Why do we like people who are similar to us? -Reassuring, validating-Convergence of goals, desires, needs-Ease of interaction-Familiarity = comfort, security-Approval from others (family)-Anticipate greater acceptance-Similarity → expected liking → attractiono In what ways do we like people to be similar?-Demographics (age, culture, ethnicity, religion, race, education, IQ, etc)-Personality-Values/Attitudes-Level of attractivenesso Role of reciprocity: enhances our liking of one another-The need to belong-The pain of rejection§ Can barriers positively influence relationship development? How so?●When we are ‘told’ we can’t have something, we often want it more ○Romeo and Juliet effect●The closing time effect○As the bar gets closer to closing time, people rate the people they previously saw more attractive than they did before§ Gender differences in loveWomen tend to be more:-Relationship focusedThink about relationships more oftenTend their relationship-Emotionally expressive-In touch with their feelingsMen appear to be more:-Romantic sexSubscribe to more romantic beliefsReport falling in love more quicklyReport falling in love “at first sight”Report saying “i love you” first§ Know the components and outcomes of the Triangular Theory of LoveRomantic love= Passion + IntimacyCompanionate love= Intimacy + CommitmentFatuous love= Passion + CommitmentConsummate love = intimacy + passion + commitment Empty love= commitmentinfatuation = passion Liking = intimacy§ Passionate Loveo Cognitive, Affective, and Behavioral ComponentsCognitive characteristics:
5-intense focused attention-obsessive thinkingAffective (Emotional) characteristics:-euphoria=feeling of intense happiness-emotional dependency-increased energyBehavioral characteristics:-seeking proximity-sexual biddingo How does it change over time?-Companionate love tends to increase over time because it relies on intimacy processes (at least initially)-passionate love tends to decrease over time-there becomes a point when both steadily decline over the course or marriage-DOES NOT DECLINE WITH AGEo Physiological effects of passion -- Passionate love is a “drug”?Cortisol levels are high when we are in loveVentral tegmental area- pleasure area (e.g., money chocolate...)§ What is companionate love? In what ways does it differ from passionate love?
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