o 1967 76 women 35 men would marry an otherwise perfect partner whom they did

O 1967 76 women 35 men would marry an otherwise

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o1967: 76% women, 35 % men would marry an otherwise perfect partner whom they did not love.oNorth Americans unique in need of love for marriage.2.
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3. Men fall in love quicker then women.4. Love is a unitary concept.5. Differences between passionate love and compassionate love:a)Passionate Love:i.Physiological arousalii.Belief that the other is the cause of that arousaliii.Reciprocated: fulfillment, ecstasyiv.Unreciprocated: emptiness, anxiety, despairb)Companionate Love:i.“comfortable, affectionate, trusting love”ii.Based on deep sense of friendshipiii.Involving companionship and enjoyment of common activities, mutual interests, and shared laughteriv.Rich committed friendship with someonev.People married 15 years or longer marriage lasted: >> My spouse is my best friend>> I like my spouse as a person.c)Are passionate and companionate love stable over time:Shift over time.Love marriage: decline after 5-10 years.Arranged marriage: peaks after 5-10 years6. Sternberg Triangular Theory of Love:i.Building Blocks of Lovea.Intimacy>> Feelings of warmth, understanding, communication and sharingb.Passion>> Physical Arousal>> Heatc.Commitment>>Decision to devote oneself to relationship and maintain it.>> Not necessarily emotional or temperamentalii.How they work togethera.Vary in intensityb.Infinite Number of combinations possibleiii.8 Combinations:1)Liking: Intimacy2)Empty Love: commitment3)Infatuation: passion4)Fatuous Love: passion + commitment5)Companionate Love: commitment + intimacy6)Romantic Love: Intimacy + Passion7)Consummate Love: Passion + Intimacy + Commitment: everything combined8)Nonlove: none of them
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iv.Empty Love Across Culturesv.Block that’s most variable and least controllable:7. 8. Passionate Love:A subjective experience associated with physiological, psychological, and behavioral outcomes including:EuphoriaIntense focused attentionObsessive thinkingEmotional dependencyCraving for emotional unionIncreased energyi.Historical evidence that passionate love has always and will always exist:>> Cross-cultural and universal: natural and basicii.Bodies must be hard-wired to experience passionate love:>> Linked to reward and motivation systems in the human brain9. fMRI evidence: passionate love involve sub cortical regions that mediate reward, conserving courtship time and energy.a. Studies conducted: Put subject in MRI machine, use mirrors to simulate picture of there loved one for 30 seconds, then a opposite sex friend who they’ve never been romantically involved with for 30 seconds.b. Parts of brain associated with passionate love:oVTA: behavioral aspects of love similar to rewarding addictive aspects of cocaine:*exhilaration*Excessive energy* Sleeplessness* Loss of appetite10. Passionate love adaptive:Just like cocaine: get used to same amount, changing location keeps things novel and exciting.
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