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There they were, made out of her, andthey couldn’t get away from that. Some-times she wanted to see John again andpoint to them and say, “Well, I didn’t doso badly, did I?”from The Jilting of Granny Weatherallby Katherine Anne Porter, 1930Chapter18/Individual Interaction533
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loving, responsive, and consistent, the child will develop a trust in theability of other people to meet his or her needs. In turn, this trusting willencourage the person to be receptive to others. However, a child who hasexperienced unresponsive, inconsistent, or unaffectionate care in infancywill most likely be more wary or mistrustful of other people. Within theparent-child relationship, we learn how to manipulate others to have ourneeds met. A parent is likely to satisfy the wishes of a child who is well-behaved, that is, who does what the parent asks. The child may also learnto get attention by pouting or having temper tantrums.As children develop and form relationships with people outside theirfamilies, they apply what they have learned about relationships. As aresult of childhood experiences, an individual might, for example, believethat the only way to establish and maintain good relationships withfriends is always to say what pleases them rather than speak the truth.Your parents influence the quality of your adult relationships in otherways. They provide you with your first model of a marital relationship.As you watched your mother and father interacting with each other ashusband and wife, you were most likely forming some tentative conclu-sions about the nature of relationships. Later on, you might use theirexample as a guide in selecting a future mate or in evaluating your rela-tionships. If your parents have a happy marriage, you will most likelyseek to duplicate it by imitating their patterns. Sadly, the reverse mayalso be true. Evidence suggests that being part of a violent family inchildhood increases the likelihood that someone will use violenceagainst his or her children and spouse (DeGenova & Rice, 2005).Sources of Parent-Adolescent ConflictIn our society, parent-child conflict may develop during adolescence.Adolescence may be a period of inner strugglesgoals versus fear ofinability to accomplish them, desire for independence versus the realiza-tion that we are only human and have limitations. The adolescent thusneeds parents who are sure of themselves, their identities, and their val-ues. Such parents serve not only as models but also as sources of stabili-ty in a world that has become complicated and full of choices.Each generation has a generational identity.This refers to the simplefact that adolescents and their parents tend to think differently about somethings. Why does this happen? You are part of a generation that is distinctfrom others. Your generation has shared formative experiences that are dif-ferent from those of other generations. For example, whereas conflicts suchas the Vietnam War and political upheavals such as the civil rights move-
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