particularly hassle if their children do not receive straight A’s on every report card and encourage them to follow their passions. Many influential people, including presidents Abraham Lincoln and Andrew Jackson, did not have college degrees but were some of the most intelligent people in history. Going back to the beginning goals, academics, seem to be linked with success and
Page 8 one’s purpose but the founder of Whole Foods, John Mackey dropped out of college six times, but finds purpose by supplying millions of people with healthy food options. Which brings up the point of do parents have all the control in a child’s success? Gurian and Hoyt have found that everyone is born with certain characteristics and personalities at birth. As Chua’s mother said, “Every child is different (Chua 211).” With Chua, Sophia was an angel but her second daughter Lulu, was very hard to parent. Chua had to alter her parenting style and resort to bribery. Parents can only influence so much, Gurian and Hoyt, who both work at the Gurian Institute have found that everyone is born with certain characteristics and personalities at birth. Children are not born with a “blank slate (Nature the Nurture).” Chua’s book The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother was partially written because Amy was discovering that parenting styles depend on the child. One example Chua gives is when Sophia said “I do all the work, and I do everything you say, and I make one mistake and you scream at me. Lulu doesn’t do anything you say. She talks back to you and throws things. You bribe her with presents (192).” Chua talked about how her daughter Sophia had lots of skills, “I don’t mean inborn skills or anything like that, just skills learned the diligent, disciplined, confidence-expanding way (Chua 8).” That just describes that people are born with skills but parenting develops them further. The Chicago Tribune author Menta, calls Chua and Rudfeld’s book “new racism,” but it should be seen as a wakeup call to western parents and children. There are big differences between the two mind sets between parents but Chua says that “But here is one thing I’m sure of: Western children are definitely no happier that Chinese ones (Chua 101).” The three major differences she discusses are that western parents emphasize a child’s self-esteem way too much, Chinese parents believe that their children owe them, and Chinese parents believe they know what is good for their children. In western parents self-esteem is a major concern. Ben Carson
Page 9 says that we are surrounded by “artificial conversation” because everyone had to watch out for feelings and being politically correct. Parents are raising children who can’t take criticism well and they do not have any hardships. Chua and Carson have even created fake hardships for their children to teach them how to handle themselves in the real world. If everyone was trying to spare feelings how can people every improve themselves? Gurian and Hoyt talk about the most prevalent myths today and one includes that criticism will damage a person’s self-esteem.
- Winter '08
- Amy Chua