The mother may consider coming over to lupes

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The mother may consider coming over to Lupe’s apartment and may even make her a special meal. Since Lucia is home all day with Eva, perhaps she has pitched in to take care of some of the household duties including cleaning and the wash. The Grandmother might look forward to a change in caring for her daughter. Also, she is at an age where although she has been more isolated, she can be pass down love, concern, and tradition for her granddaughter and great-granddaughter
who are now conveniently close. Lupe’s new needs will give her mother a good “excuse” to be over. Lupe’s granddaughter will need to be more careful around her grandmother, but most likely they give each other great cheer. The granddaughter will appreciate the extra love and attention. If nothing else, she will feel more secure, if not for self, for the calming influence on herparents. Normally, a potential son-in-law treats his mother-in-law with respect. Perhaps, he and Lucia will wish to seek her advice. Lupe seems to be a secure person, especially at work; however, most likely she presented to her children as somewhat preoccupied due to responsibilities with work, church, and care of her mother. It would seem that Lupe has an internalized positive sense of herself as a giving woman. She is supportive of those close to her. In return, she should be able to count on the others as now being supportive of her. She also is independent and emotionally comfortable. We don’t have a good picture yet of the grandmother. She could have been secure, because she raised Lupe to do well. She could be preoccupied with herself in that she didn’t seem concerned that Lupe had to come always to her. She also could be avoidant in that so far she seems to look up to her daughter, but we have not heard that she has much contact with her daughter’s family. She could also be frightened of leaving her home. Perhaps she thinks the younger generation doesn’t loveher. It is not known. Eva’s situation is also unknown. We only know that since she has been born, her parents’ relationship has been deteriorating. Most likely her relationships are insecure and she is at an age where she is learning self-recognition and language. She will need to hear her parents giving her positive messages because her semantic memory skills are improving. She will start to show signs of self-evaluation and self-esteem soon. A large part of her self-system will depend on how well she learns to self-regulate. Somebody should be more attentive to her self-concept needs. Tomas is having his own problems, because he’s at the age of
identity formation, and is already avoidant-dismissive. He has a positive image of himself, but a negative image of his daughter’s mother.

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