Destiny v. Growth - Mindsets are orthogonal (i.e. independent - not opposite ends of the spectrum) so it is possible to hold both mindsets.“Fate brings people together, but then it is up to them.”Mindsets are flexible and can change over time Empathic Accuracy - ●Understanding the thoughts and feelings of ones partner●Why is it important for our relationships? ○Facilitates: communication, support, resolving conflict●How do we measure EA????○Mood Scale: How are you feeling?●78 couples having their first baby○Daily diary design
■Pregnancy, infancy, toddlerhood●Having your first child is a major life transition●Global and daily stressors●Why would this big transition impact EA?Interdependence Theory-Outcomes >Comparison Level (CL) = Satisfaction -The extent to which the actions of each partner influence the outcomes of the other-Greater independence = greater opportunities for conflict (my interests go against your interests)-Can affect our model10/12/17What is a goal?-Something that you are trying to do or achieveWhy might goal pursuit be important to look at within relationships?Shah 2003 ❖Experimental Design ❖Mom’s name, friend name, goal has for them (both mom and friend), how close they felt to mother or friend, 15 min filler task, Priming the brain?❖Shah found that the effect of priming individuals with a specific relationship caused them to pursue goals related to that relationship to pursue goals related to the relationship dependingon how close that relationship was.➢Closer you are to someone the more you will pursue that goal➢Want someone that has the same goals as youRelationship and goal pursuits ●Self-regulation○The study of psychological and behavioral processes that movepeople toward desired end-states and away from undesired end-states.
Transactive goal dynamics○Relationships are a regulating unit, w the partners as subunits in a single system of goal dynamics, a system in which resources are pooled. ❏One partner goal❏Parallel goals ❏Can be pursued by either partners or both partners❏Shared goals What goal do you think might be trickier in relationships? Is a goal support always helpful?-Weight loss study-Wives are more likely to be successful when their husbands aretold to be uninvolved-Older studyBACK TO DR. GLEASONAre we still getting married?-Less than in the pastRace - From 1960(80) to 2012-Black adults: 9% to 36%-White adults: 8% to 16%-Hispanic adults 12% to 26%-Asian American adults: 13% to 19%Being single-Demographics-97 men for every 100 women in the US-Economics
-Better career and earning potential for women-The feeling that one cannot afford marriage -Technological -Birth control (1960s)-Reproductive technologies -Cultural-Sex outside of marriage accepted (95% before age 44)-Emerging Adulthood-Marriage no longer = becoming adult-Self supporting, moving out, full-time job, completing school, financial stability, and finally marriage Premarital Cohabitation ➢More likely to cohabit (900% increase since 1960’s)What is it?
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