Relate this tactic to but i assure you my children

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relate this tactic to but I assure you my children are always doing it to find out what they want to know, what are we doing, where are we going, why and the infamous are we there yet? If they ask what for dinner I generally answer “Food”. Then comes a million questions to determine what type, you’d think I’d know better than that by now but it is fun. At work, role reversal is a conflict resolution tool between my contractors and customers even DLA. It’s too easy to ask, “well, what if it was you?”; for instance, an angry contractor claiming a customer was unprofessional, after informing me he was two hours late for a scheduled pick-up for the customer. I would ask, “well, what would you do if it was you waiting with no means of contact for someone that might or might not show up after the first hour?”. Just based on habit, it’s easily explained how I use it in my everyday life, every time I hear “It’s not
PROC 5840 Negotiations / 12 Angry Men Analysis 12 fair”. Recently it was used to console a friend who was upset with their spouse. I can only hope that by answering that question he realized the error of his ways. There is a need to please others in all of us, and that’s where accommodating comes into play. It is depicted by the yearning to please others to the drawback you could lose your own particular favorable position and it’s often referred to as “lose-win “. It is obliging, a required settlement in a case that the circumstances are more important to the other party and you require acknowledgement and to be seen more favorable rather than as a winner. When dealing with so many contractors on a regular basis under the guidelines of the Air Force I realize the need for and work towards this on every work day. I was approached by my boss who was upset that we went over the threshold for delivery of a waste profile. The 5 lbs. container was turned in to my contractors over 130 days ago and by the RCRA standards we should have arranged for disposal no later than 90 days. I knew if I went over his head and fixed the issue which would be easily done, I would not gain his favor so I quietly pulled up the regulation on my phone and informed him that it is not acute waste. We are using the date it was turned in and we should use the date we accumulated 55 Gal of this waste, putting us well within the threshold. I didn’t embarrass him in front of contractors and I stood there while he bragged on the phone as if he reached this conclusion on his own. Now he let’s me run the program and confides in me as a subject matter expert. He was my new boss and we now have a great working relationship. In my every day life, I’m sad to say my examples relate to ways I manipulate my adult friend for my own personal gains like letting them win arguments so they would want to confide in me more. After all, there’s only so much kids want to talk about and boy, they never stop talking about the same things.
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