§ What is companionate love? In what ways does it differ from passionate love?
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Enduring Vulnerabilities Model
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Bradbury & Karney
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People enter marriage with enduring vulnerabilities
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Pick bad partners
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Selection perspective
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Family of origin issues
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We learn a lot from observing our parents
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Happy parents = happy couples
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Divorced parents = negative relationship who are more likely to divorce as
well
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Bad social skills
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Poor education
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Dysfunctional attitudes about marriage
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Woman belongs at home, pregnant, cooking, etc.
o
Exacerbated by stress
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Ex: unemployment, death of a child
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Must cope effectively; if not, may leave…
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Preexisting doom

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Mechanical failure/process loss
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Sudden death
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Premarital cohabitation
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Cohabitation
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What is it?
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Unmarried partners involved in a close personal relationship who share living
quarters
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Quasi Cohabitation: basically living together but either maintaining separate
residency or not contributing
- Who does it?
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Ages 22-44
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Lower SES (Social Economic Status) and education (curvilinear for women)
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Women who value careers
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More liberal (less traditional family roles)
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Those with divorced parents or previously married
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less religious
4 types of Cohabitation
-practical reasons
-to “try things out”
-a transition to marriage
-do it because some simply don’t believe in marriage
- Why do they do it?
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Maximize rewards/minimize costs
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sexual access
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share cost of living and housework
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combine income and time
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easy out
o How does it influence relationship outcomes? Why?
§ Interdependence Theory (The way interacting individuals influence the experiences of each other via their behaviors)– what are the three major components that define relationship dependence and satisfaction? Know how these three components interact with one another.

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