he could live this lifestyle instead of avoiding the traditional life his

He could live this lifestyle instead of avoiding the

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he could live this lifestyle instead of avoiding the traditional life his parents live. Maxine’s relationship with her parents is the relationship Gogol wishes he had. Maxine’s parents Gerald and Lydia show that kind of affectionate and American type of love Gogol’s parents never openly displayed. Gogol soon moves in with Maxine leaving behind his connections with his home and his parents, yet he enjoys living this kind of life without his parents. However, this also bothers Gogol because he spends so much time with Maxine’s parents and not his own. He knows Gerald and Lydia are nothing like his parents and as Lahiri observes,
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“his immersion in Maxine’s family is a betrayal of his own” (141). Gogol would never attend his family dinners and does not even communicate with his parents anymore. As Gogol sits at the dinner table, he knows that he won’t be able to enjoy a moment like this with his family. His family is always so traditional doing puja’s, speaking Bengali and eating Indian food which is something Gogol doesn’t do at all. He chose to become close with Maxine’s family because he can enjoy being himself. Gogol begins to feel more distant from Maxine after his father, Ashoke, dies because Gogol begins to shift more towards his family. Maxine has never known anything of this side of Gogol’s identity, and this causes a misunderstanding between them. This sudden death causes Gogol to turn to his family for comfort which is something he has never done. All his life he tries to rid himself from his parents’ culture however, things change for him as he no longer feels an urge to escape anymore. Gogol soon realizes that this identity is no longer something he can run from. Despite all his attempted relationships that failed, Gogol continues to seek love. However, he takes a different approach this time. Gogol has spent his whole life rebelling against his mother and her culture. His romantic relationships which he has used to form this new identity is now being used to drive him back to his original identity he shares with his family. Instead of trying to find that Americanized love he has been searching
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for his whole life, Gogol gives in to his parents wishes and starts a relationship with someone of the same culture. Moushumi is someone Gogol and his family had known for quite some time.
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