At first he is upset because he always wanted to see

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have any biological children. At first, he is upset because he always wanted to see what his and Hero's children would look like and how they would grow up. Then he realizes that he will still see that in his adopted children. How they raise those kids will shape how they develop. Not everything is due to nature, some of it is still nurture and environment. He loves his children very much and wants to do everything possible for their happiness. That is why they decided on open adoptions. Both he and Hero are 100% committed to having openness in their adoptions. They want to the birth parents to be involved and to see their children growing up. They have visits as often as possible with most of the birth parents. Only Firefly's birth father is distant and less interested.
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The Hidden Voices 5 Todd explains open adoption in the following way. “There is something about openness in adoption that makes me think of marriage. You get the spouse, but the inlaws are part of the package. With openness you are entrusted with a child to love and to raise, but you are also called, for the child's sake, to bring their parents into their circle of love and family as best and as real as you can” ((A)Dad, Sept 22, 2008). In an open adoption you are agreeing to take on the child's parents as more family. Perhaps you do not see them as often as close family, but they become like extended family. They are kept updated and visited and, if not loved, then well liked. It is important to Todd and Hero that their children know their birthparents so they will never have to question where they come from or who they are. The Adoptee The blog of the adoptee is “Artist/Musician/Writer schtuff...” The author is Kevin, his adoptive parents are Barbara and Melvin. Kevin always knew he was adopted and never questioned it or was concerned about it. Then he got married and started planning for a family of his own. Then, he began to question his heritage. He wanted to know about his parents so his sons could know their history. And so he began his search, but there were many road blocks. His records were all sealed and there was little way to get in touch with anyone who knew his past. His adoptive mother was very surprised that he was not allowed to see his file because she was told that he would be able to access it after his 18th birthday. The only thing he could do was go through an intermediary. She found and called his birthparents, but barely made contact. Neither of them called back or made an effort to reach out from their end. Due to confidentiality limitations, they are not allowed to try again and simply have to wait to see if the birth parents will contact them again. In the meantime, Kevin is trying to come to terms with his status as an adoptee in a closed adoption. He always receives his birthdays with a major episode of depression. Now, he is motivated and in life coaching and finding support groups for adoptees. He has been to meetings with people on
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The Hidden Voices 6 all sides of adoption and is beginning to understand the process much better. He has become a big
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