Romeo and Juliet effect: When we are told we can’t have something, we often want more.The Closing Time effect: Patrons in a bar are rated higher in attractiveness after last call.°°Gender differences in loveWomen tend to be more:oRelationship-focusedoThink about it more oftenoTend to their relationshipsoEmotionally expressiveoIn touch with their feelingsMen appear to be the more romantic sex.oSubscribe to more romantic beliefsoReport falling in love more quicklyoMen are both quicker to fall in love and profess their love.o“Love at first sight”oSay “I love you” more quicklyKnow the components and outcomes of the Triangular Theory of LoveSee spiral for complete diagram
3 components: Intimacy (liking), Passion (infatuation), Commitment (empty love)oRomantic love: Passion + IntimacyoCompanionate love: Intimacy + CommitmentoFatuous love: Commitment + PassionoConsummate love: All 3oNon-love: None of the above componentsArranged marriages can actually report more love down the line than love marriages.°°Passionate loveCognitive, affective, and behavioral componentsoCharacterized by physiological arousal, and belief that the partner is the cause of that arousal.oCognitive characteristicsIntense, focused attentionObsessive thinkingoAffective (emotional) characteristicsEuphoria- Feeling of intense happinessEmotional dependencyIncreased energyoBehavioral characteristicsSeeking proximitySexual biddingHow does it change over time?
We start to feel less passionate about the same person over time.oHow can we “keep the fire going”?Maintaining passion requires effort.Novelty mattersEx: Experiment involving couples engaging in an obstacle course v. those engaging in a more “boring” gymnasium activity.Couples who engage in “new” activities together, as opposed to many repetitive activities, report more love for each other over time.Could be a cyclical system in that, couples who are in love tend to seek out novelty.Some couples are able to maintain feelings of passionate love for decades.oLove over timePassionate love tends to decrease over time.Companionate love increases over time because it relies on intimacy processes. (At least initially)Both decline over the course of marriageDoes not decline with agePhysiological effects of passion – Passionate love is a “drug”?oVentral tegmental area (VTA) lights up in brain scans when one sees an item of passionate love (i.e. money, chocolate, cocaine, etc.)Ex: Showing Edward Cullen a picture of Bella v. Rihanna.Suggests that passionate love may have evolved to promote partner choice, which helps conserve time/energy associated with courtship.Passionate love causes relationships to progress more quickly than those that start off as friends.oHormones and Passionate LoveNerve growth factor (NGF)- Chemical compound in the bodyRegulates synaptic plasticity and neural survivalElevated when people are passionately in loveCortisol“Stress hormone”