because have allowed each other right to private area of life space. But notrubbing their nose in it)4.Issues:Questions of the right to extend privacy to sexuality; less jealousy5.Philosophy:Less stressful for couple than "open relationship" of the 1960sFor a lot of people being monogamous (if in long relationship with someone) is unrealistic. (author)G. Swinging: – People go to parties, swing houses, nightclubs…to potentially engage in sex with other people. In terms of the arenas in which you can go…according to how informal organization setting is tohow formal it tends to be (formal in organizational sense). >Least formal type – friends spontaneously decide to engage in sex with other person there - Usually initially two couples (for simplicity sake). Doesn’t involve any preparation or anything elaborate. >2ndbars where swingers hang out (i.e. some lesbian bars not that during day but by night) people go simply because good chance they can meet someone they want to swing with – bar doesn’t do anything to organize swinging. >3rdadvertisements (i.e. in magazines, internet) becoming something well organized because you must sign up with them, send ad to magazine, they publish, responses go back to magazine – they control your anonymity, you cant write directly to people and they cant write directly to you.
2>4thswingers motels/camps/resorts: example – one has been opened in California where it is just like a regular motel except known as place for swingers. Clothing optional at pool, have bar and dance floor in separate building; meet other couples; go back to motel room – decide whether to keep blinds open and let other see or close them. Motel doesn’t do much to organize the swinging (such as other organizations do) >5thuse own home. Noncommercial use – in an organization of some kind, club, or group of people where people take turns making their house available for a swing party (like in the OC) all swing parties have “orgy” room (room people can go and fool around with people, others can watch) have to have private rooms, mouthwash, usually bowl of condoms, towels. Usually have to borrow mattresses and towels from others. Swinger friendly, don’t do anything special in terms of swinging though. >Commercial – on premises swing clubs. Most common arena (or has been). Someoneusually goes to some expense to modify their home in order to have swing parties and that it will be set up in a way that appeals to people. Hot tubs, orgy room, private areas, etc. mattresses. >6thmost formal venue – Nightclub. Differs in the fact that it is commercial real estateand usually in commercial area (city), ticket window-pay to get in, not just house…really a large area that is set up for numerous types of activities. (Pool, dance floor, lights, steam) There are guards at every door, not just adapting to home – orgy rooms, bleachers for people to watch. Rules of club: cannot go in or out of room unless it is a male/female duo (in order to maintain equal sex balance) door cunts/tickets. Most known about La trap?? In Florida and new york. Biasagainst bisexual men or gay men. 1.Opportunity Structure: Informal to formal organization of swinging2.Structure of act: Closet (private area) vs. open swinging (orgy room)