Cognitive appraisal of the physiological arousal means you attribute it to some

Cognitive appraisal of the physiological arousal

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Cognitive appraisal of the physiological arousal means you attribute it to some cause, such as fear or love The perception that you’ve fallen in love is thus derived from several simultaneous events:state of intense physiological arousal in connection with an appropriate love object, a cultural setting that idealizes romantic love and your attribution of the physiological arousal to feelings of love for the person Styles of Love Psychologists talk about styles of love Susan Hendrick and Clyde Hendrick speak of love as a positive emotion that contributes to happiness, psychological well-being and optimism about the future Developed a love attitude scale that suggests the existence of six styles of love: 1. Romantic love (eros):my lover fits my ideal, my lover and I were attracted to one another immediately 2. Game-playing love (ludus):I keep my lover up in the air about my commitment, I get over love affairs pretty easily 3. Friendships (storge, philia):the best love grows out of an enduring friendship 4. Logical love (pragma):I consider a lover’s potential in life before committing myself, I consider whether my lover will be a good parent 5. Possessive, excited love (mania):I get so excited about my love that I can’t sleep, when my lover ignores me, I get sick all over 6. Selfless love (agape):id do anything I could to help my lover, my lovers need, and wishes are more important than my own These styles of love owe a debt to the Greeks Most people experience love in a number of styles, but Hendrick and Hendrick found some interesting gender differences - University men are significantly more likely to develop game-playing and romantic love styles - University women more likely to experience friendly, logical and possessive love styles - Romantically involved couples tend to experience the same love styles Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love Robert Sternberg offered a triangular theory that organizes the relationships between the different kinds of love discussed by theorists, including passionate love, romantic love and companionate love The three components of love are: 1. Intimacy:the experience of warmth toward another person that arises from feelings of closeness, bondedness and connectedness, including the desire to give and receive emotional support and to share innermost thoughts 2. Passion:an intense romantic or sexual desire for another person, accompanied by physiological arousal 3. Commitment:dedication to maintaining the relationship through good times and bad
Love can be conceptualized in terms of a triangle, with each vertex representing one of the basic elements - The way the components are balanced represents the shape of the triangle - A love in which all three components are balanced is represented by a equilateral triangle Couples are well matched if they possess corresponding levels of passion, intimacy and commitment - Compatibility can be represented visually in terms of congruence of the love triangles

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