Putting her down. Making her feel bad about
herself. Calling her names. Making her think
s crazy. Playing mind games. Humiliating her.
Making her feel guilty.
Treating her like a servant: making all the big
decisions, acting like the
master of the castle,
being the one to define men
s and women
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job.
Making her ask for money. Giving her an
allowance. Taking her money. Not letting her know
about or have access to family income.
Making her feel guilty about the children. Using the
children to relay messages. Using visitation to
harass her. Threatening to take the children away.
Making light of the abuse and not taking her
concerns about it seriously. Saying the abuse
t happen. Shifting responsibility for abusive
behavior. Saying she caused it.
Making her afraid by using looks, actions, and
gestures. Smashing things. Destroying her property.
Abusing pets. Displaying weapons.
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks
to, what she reads, and where she goes. Limiting
her outside involvement. Using jealousy to justify