For I am persuaded beyond doubt (am sure) that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities, nor things impending and threatening nor things to come, nor powers, Nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:38–39). Whatever has happened in your life that has left you wounded and brokenhearted, it does not need to continue tormenting you. God says in His Word that He has loved your life back from the pit of corruption and nothingness (Isaiah 38:17). Jesus was sent to heal the brokenhearted, to bind up their wounds and heal their bruises (Isaiah 61:1). Let His love begin to do the work in your wounded soul that it is intended to do!
CHAPTER 7 Hurting People Hurt People Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for [God’s] wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay (requite), says the Lord. —Romans 12:19 On your journey of healing, possibly the most difficult thing that God will ask you to do is forgive the people who hurt you. It certainly was very challenging for me. One of the things that helped me a lot was when God showed me that hurting people hurt other people. We normally only think of how much we are hurting and then proceed to be angry with the people who have hurt us, but most of the time they are hurting, too. Someone or something has hurt them, and they are acting out of their own pain, often not even realizing their actions are hurting others. My father finally told me when he was eighty years old that he was sorry for the sexual abuse in my childhood. He then went on to say, “I had no idea that what I was doing would hurt you so badly.” In some ways that sounds preposterous. How could he not know he was hurting me? He did know that what he was doing was wrong, otherwise, he would not have told me over and over to never tell anyone. But he was so absorbed in his own lustful desires that he never even considered how his actions were impacting me.
I eventually discovered that my father had come from a family in which incest was not uncommon. When I was a young girl, his father (my grandfather) attempted to molest me, as did two of my uncles, so I know the traits of sexual abuse were present in the family. If you read the statistics I provide in appendix I, you will see that it is estimated that 1 million girls in America are victims of father- daughter incest. Sadly, it is more common than we realize. My father was always bitter toward his father, and we never knew why, but it is easy to imagine what the root of his bitterness might have been. He was hurting, but he drowned his own pain in addictive behaviors, and I seriously doubt that he ever realized that his ungodly actions were the result of pain and possibly abuse in his own childhood.
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