Both men and women should embrace expressive and instrumental traits Men should

Both men and women should embrace expressive and

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Both men and women should embrace expressive and instrumental traitsMen should be more in touch with their emotions, more able to express, take more of a nurturing roleWomen should be more direct and aggressive so they don’t need to just be at home. They can be competing with manBoth try to find common groundChapter 6: What is Love? oBiochemistry of LoveFrom evolution theory- attraction of men and women to produce childrenAlways gonna be biological perspectiveThey think the goal is to procreate the species Your “type” promotes the release of natural amphetaminesGenetically programmedFrom the beginning of time, you’ve been programmed to like a certain person ortype of personoBecome infatuated in a person so deeplyLovers feel “high” distracted, lose sleep don’t eat consumed Infatuation fades as amphetamines are replaced by endorphins as attachment developsSafe, warm, kind, affectionate. Not the incredible high you felt Critique– few scientific studies, the chemicals associated with love produce other intense feelings and behaviorsAll some biochemical thingoStudies: Gave women this “perfume” and once it was sprayed, the women would get datesoStudies: Men would sweat through a shirt and women would smell it and see if they like the guy oAttachment TheoryBased on the work of Mary AinsworthAssumes the major motivation for humans is attachmentAssumes early attachments between mother and child form the model for adult attachmentsWhat type of relationships will you be drawn into in the future?3 Types of AttachmentsSecure- Attachments feel good and are desiredoMother gives consistent love through physical connection, care, loveoChild needs consistent love through feeling the connectionoLead you to make good choices in relationships because you know when someone is loving, caring, consistent, reliable, loyalAvoidant- Attachments don’t feel safe and are avoidedoParents were self-involved, inconsistent, unreliable14
FNES 147 – Family RelationsAlan SteinoNo one was coming when you cried oRelationships don’t feel goodoFeels frightened, can’t trust, afraid of intimacy Anxious/Ambivalent- desire to merge pushed others awayoIn-the-middleoParents can be reliable sometimes, and unreliable during other times oPerson is very insecureoPerson loves parent because you need them and gratifies your needs, and hates them because they aren’t always there for youoPerson has a relationship where the person is there but may also leave the next second. There is love, hate, anger, happiness in this relationshipoDesires real trust but doesn’t trust their trustoCreates unnecessary drama to see if person will stay or notoSternberg’s Triangular TheoryLove has 3 components: Passion- Physical attraction oFirst thing that draws people togetheroWhere things startIntimacy- feelings of closenessoDevelops over timeo

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