2 How do you know its a problem 3 When did you decide that 4 When dont you do

2 how do you know its a problem 3 when did you decide

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2. How do you know (it’s a problem)? 3. When did you decide that? 4. When don’t you do it now? 5. What are you not deciding when you don’t’ do it? 6. How is that different from how you were? 7. How do you know that, now? 8. What other changes would you like to make?
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Two... 41 The NLP Master Practitioner Training, July, 2004 Copyright © 1987-2004, Tad James, Advanced Neuro Dynamics DE-IDENTIFICATION PATTERN This pattern is useful for going beyond limiting (and therefore false) identifications, usually in the form of a CEq. Complex equivalence’s are the language construction of identification. With a slight adjustment of the language you can use this easily on yourself therapeutically or as a meditation if you continue to repeat steps 3 through 6. 1. Elicit the identification in the form of a Complex Equivalence. Listen for: the verb “to be” Or "Means" 2. Pace and feedback the complex equivalence. “So, you are _________.” 3. Is that all you think you are? (Look for a physiological shift.) 4. Aren't you more than that? (There should be agreement.) 5. “So, w hat are you that's not (the previous identification)? You want a verbal answer from the client. (We have gone beyond the boundaries, and we need a word to stabilize the shift.) 6. And beyond (the word elicited in #5), is that all you are? How much more are you than that? For extra leverage use Tag Question: You do know you are more than that, don't you? 7. How do you know? Anchors the change to the client's reality strategy.
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