There is no longer a premium on a womans virginity

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there is no longer a premium on a woman’s virginity masturbation for self-pleasure- similar to men o sexual behavior has grown similar to men age of first sex declined o more sex before marriage (90% w 99% m) o want to have sex the same amount (usually more often) o what turns men and women on is similar (sex talk rather than a romantic situation) o want more sexual variety
o having it and enjoying it more- more frequent orgasms and they don’t fake it there is still a difference in womens and mens sexuality but “the rules are not enforced [like]… they were in the past” there’s pressure for both men and women to lose their virginity o men is still a sign of manhood, women still a ‘loss’ o both feel entitled to pleasure some men feel if they pay for a date they are entitled to sex for their effort- why rape occur on campuses predatory males have turned to college-age women into victims of sexual assault men are the principal sexual predators womens increase in sexual agency has not been accompanied by a decrease in male sexual entitlement or a sharp increase in mens capacity for intimacy and emotional connectedness men still adhere to a ‘non-relational’ model for sexual behavior o sex is central to their lives without a relationship, coupled with aggression, conceptualized with success and pursued despite negative emotional and moral consequences some studies are more critical of this tendency than others some say it is good as it will allow adolescent “to reduce sexual tensions” and gain sexual experience thereby reducing curiosity with different partners in the future this is not the only way men express themselves sexually though- some men develop values that oppose those now anorgasmia (cant achieve an orgasm), sex addiction, and nonrelation sex are all problems our goal should be to “enlarge our sexual repertoires to enable both men and women to experience a wide variety of permutations and combinations of love and lust, without entirely reducing one to the other- as long as all these experiences are mutually negotiated, safe and equal.” Homosexuality as Gender Conformity o The previous info about ‘his’ and ‘her sex’ is applicable to homosexuals and it is so heterosexuals o There is an assumption that gay men and lesbians are gender nonconformists (masculine women etc) but this is flawed o Assumes the gender of your partner is more important than yours o makes assumptions about what it is to be a man or a women o sexual behavior confirms gender identity o some people believe you can condition a child into being straight
o empirical studies have made this claim on ‘sissy boys’ and ‘tomboy’ girls o sissy boys were x4 more likely to be gay- but hard to prove because this is rare o tomboys did not usually turn out to be gay homosexual experience may be the result of social reactions to their conduct (to try and thwart this gay tendency), which thwarted their ability to establish conventional hetero-social pattern of behavior sexual preference being gendered… ^

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