Derogation of Alternatives
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When people are in committed relationships we make ATTRACTIVE ALTERNATIVES
LESS ATTRACTIVE
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Willingness to sacrifice
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Illusions of superiority in relationships
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Higher levels of this helps foster commitment
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Fidelity
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Resist temptation & be faithful
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Statement Exercise
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Dr. Gleason had two women come up and rate their relationship on a 1-8 scale 1
being least and 8 being most
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Cognitive accessibility of commitment
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The more committed the faster you can answer the questions
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Accessibility vs. Quality of commitment (we v. me)
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EXAM INFORMATION
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2/28 –Not on book JUST LECTURE
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40 MC
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5 Short Answer
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Study w/ someone else
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Social Perception
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1) Characteristic of Stimuli (Object)
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2) Characteristic of perceiver (Nature)
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3) Characteristic of context (Cues)
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Two routes to Social perception
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Bottom up Processing
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Input from outside (externals)
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Stimuli and reaction to that
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Top Down Processing
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Perceptions by perceiver
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Input is from INSIDE
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Past experiences impact actions/words being perceived & shape how we view the
world
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Our ex partners can take out a lot of our time
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When we break up we give up investments
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Investments include intangible things
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Satisfaction alternatives and investments
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Investments + alternatives + satisfaction = commitment
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Feel more committed to politics
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Feel investment if given money
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If have time invested in a particular party
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She wanted iphone because everything she wanted on her smart phone
was formatted for an iphone
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Apple makes sure once you go Mac, you don’t go back
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In a commitment more likely to stay/leave behavior
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Hillary and Bill Clinton
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Just because he has alternatives does not mean they lack in other
areas of aspects in their relationship
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She might have low expectations in marriage
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Commitment predicts
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Stay/leave
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Hillary and Bill
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Perspective Talking
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Psychologist ask the husband to write down what wife’s
emotions are on the conflict
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If more committed to staying together than they are more
likely to know what their emotion is
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Husband is able to take perspective of his wife
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Perspective taking is = empathy
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Accommodation
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To think of subplanting your needs for the needs of another
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Her husband left when he lived to more closer
location to his wife’s job and then they did vice versa
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Have to decide who has the more important job
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Derogation of Alternatives
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When people are highly committed to each other they will
rate people less attractive
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Think of a person as a 7 rather than a 9 if you are in a
committed relationship
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Avoid alternatives altogether
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Willingness to sacrifice
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Illusions perceived relationship superiority
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Fidelity
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The more committed you are, the less likely you are to cheat
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Cognitive Accessibility of Commitment
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Able to answer faster when in a committed relationship
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How often are we thinking of ourselves as a “we” rather than a “me”
