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would continue to do so for many younger and more confused couples. After that, they went to Catholic Social Services and received much better treatment and opinions about their options. Here they were first introduced to the idea of open adoption, and they liked it very much. Over the next few months, I Am and Athena reviewed birth parent profiles and narrowed down their choices. They were very happy with the profile for Professor Plum and Miss Scarlet and were even happier when they met them. They continued to meet periodically until Festus was born and then visit about monthly after the placement. The process for them was very smooth, but it is still an adoption and therefore still riddled with obstacles and pain. I Am's family is very unsupportive of a placement outside of the family. His brothers all wish that he had chosen of them to parent his son. However, he and Athena agreed that it would be too messy. The people at I Am's work find out while he is away, helping Athena recover. There is an initial uproar and confusion over what to do. Upon his return, no one speaks to him about it. It is as if everyone is afraid he will explode if they mention it. The only people who feel more comfortable bringing it up are close friends and family. Another challenge they faced was the omnipresent “congratulations”. Everyone, even if they know it was not a happy occasion or if they knew there was going to be an adoption, decided that congratulations was the best way to react. And every time he or Athena heard it, it hurt. Because they were not happy about it. It was not a baby they
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The Hidden Voices 4 wanted. And every time someone congratulated them, it made it hurt a little more. The blog was last updated in October and things are still hard for I Am and Athena. They are happy with their decision, though they are facing challenges in other parts of their lives that make them realize again they made th right decision. The Adoptive Father The blog of the adoptive father is called “(A)Dad: Open adoption from a different perspective.” The author of the blog is Todd, and it is unclear whether all of the names are fake or not. The general assumption is that they are all changed for identity protection. Todd's wife is Hero, his two adopted children are Puppy and Firefly, and their birth parents are Ray, Kelly, Beth, and Kevin. When Todd and Hero first got married, they discussed how they both wanted to adopt children. It was not a choice made of necessity, but more of taking in children who needed homes. Puppy was their first, a son, now two years old, whose biological father looks a lot like Todd so most people assume he is their biological child. Firefly, however, is mixd race. She is still an infant, only five months at the beginning of the blog. After her adoption, Todd realized that the chances of them having any biological children was becoming slim. He had always believed they would have a mixed family. They would have some biological children and one or two adopted. He begins to come to terms with the fact that he might not have any biological children. At first, he is upset because he always wanted to see what his and Hero's
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