Since my sense of obligation was rooted in my

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moral decency. Since my sense of obligation was rooted in my insecurities it was much harder for me to say no to anything because if I had then that fear of being alone may actually become reality. I would do close to whatever I had to do to make sure people would stay around. Now this sense of obligation wasn’t so forced with my actual friends and family because I wanted to do things for them out of love. The only reason some of this obligation backfired on me is because I didn’t always know exactly who my true friends were. Which in turn left me open to being taken advantage of a lot, or so I was being told by people who I could have considered my real friends. Over time, my experiences taught me that I should only hold obligations to people who I “know” or people who I can trust. It seemed that the people I only thought I knew were the ones who let me go to the ends of the earth for them as far as what I would do for them. Whether it was dedicating my time, spending my money, or whatever the case may be; they would let me do
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it without a second thought. And I would go ahead and do it…every time. Although, I felt obligated to help anyone and everyone out; my sense of obligation extended further to people who I’d known for a while because time teaches you that you can trust people. Or so I’d thought. I found out on many occasions and still sometimes to this day, that time does not indicate whether or not you can trust someone. People only show you what they want you to see. However, spending more time with someone sometimes makes it harder for them to be dishonest and mistrusting, but it still can happen. Trust depends on the caliber of someone’s character. Sometimes you can find out whether or not a person is trustworthy within the first time meeting them and some you’ll never find out until it comes to that point in time where they betray you. The only reason I bring up trust is because I believe that you obligate yourself more to people you trust; at least that is/was the case for me. Sometimes you obligate yourself blindly, because you see characteristics in someone that should be indicative of a good person so you attach yourself to those qualities especially if they are ones you can’t see in yourself. This can be dangerous because sometimes you may ration away or ignore things that would have otherwise sent up red flags when dealing with people like this. I would say that through the years my sense of obligations and responsibilities has dwindled due to being so blindly obligated to people. I can give an example of a time I was obligated to my best friend at the time and someone who was a complete stranger. Both of these relationships back fired on me. I believe that I’m the type of person who will go to the end of the earth for people, especially people I care about. I don’t care if it puts me in a bad position; I will always help because that’s all I’d known friendship to mean. That’s all I’d known being responsible for others meant. What’s the point of labeling someone as someone you care about if you won’t do everything in your power to make sure that you are always there for them no matter what? I can tell you that that thought process
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