So they was like best friends and the lil short dark

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. . . So they was like best friends and the lil’ short dark one,2oshe was real cool.. .. Every time one fight, the other short one will help, right. ... [Then] they let this girl come up here and mess it up for ’em. [One of the best friends was suspended, and] when she came back [the third girl] was like, “you know, so-and-so [Le.,the lil’ short dark girl] was takin’ about you. . . . [She said] you fake.” Which is all a story, they just wanted them to fight. The story succeeded “So [the best friend] was like, ‘You said I’m fake.’ [The dark one] was like, ‘Naw, I ain’t say that.”’ Her friend didn’t believe her and continued to confront and accuse the girl: [The dark one] didn’t want to fight her ’cause they was real cool. So the other girl, she frontin’ [acting tough in front of others] and stuff, knowin’ the other one [wouldn’t fight her]. . . . She was just doin’ all this [hittingges- tures] behind her head. . . like we’d be in the lunchroom, [the dark onel’d sit by me and stuff, [the other oneI’ll come over there and kick her chair and stuff, [the dark oneI’ll start crying. . . . She really [was] doin’ [it to] get all this attention, makin’ everybody think she hard and stuff. She use to always act like she goin’ smack her and stuff. . . . [But] she know if she would have hit her, [the dark girl] woulda just whooped her. And she know. They was best friends, they both could fight, and she know she would have got whooped. Everybody was like, “aw, you a punk to the one that was cryin’, “’causeyou know so-and-so’ll whoop you, whyn’t you gon’ fight her?” Dudes ampin’ it up [attempting to escalate the conflict],“whyn’t you gon’ fight her?” The girl was heartbroken that her best friend had turned on her. Anishika told her, “That’s not your friend ’cause yo’ friend wouldn’t’ve been doin’ all that. She wouldn’t’ve let nobody come to her with no he say/she say, and she didn’t hear you say it yo’self. . . . Friends don’t do all that, they do not let nobody come to them tryin’ to break they relationship up.” . . . I mean, it Stuck Up, Telling Lies, and Talking Too Much 49 just hurt her, you know what I’m saying. She was upset, crying and stuff. I told her she have to know she didn’t have friends. I told [her] I thought I had friends, I ain’t wanna listen to my mamma, but I had to find out the hard way. Anishika’s story encapsulates the disruptive effect of he saylshe say on girls’ friendships and the distrustful attitude young women often developed about their relationships with other girls. Additional themes emerged in this narrative that will be followed up later, including Anish- ika’s emphasis on the confrontational girl’s desire for others to see her as “hard” and the role of third parties in “amping up” fights. First, we move to another proximate trigger for girls’ fights: status challenges.

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