She told me she wouldnt talk to him because she knew

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about the situation was the fact that she had lied to me. She told me she wouldn’t talk to him because she knew that I liked him. And when I had asked her if they were going out the first time, she told me no. She also had him lie to me. I didn’t speak to her for a couple days because I was trying to figure out how someone who claims to be my best friend could do something like that to me. In calling someone your best friend, there are certain responsibilities you know you are supposed to have to someone. Respect is one of them. She had shown only an obligation to herself and that was to make her own happiness, regardless of whether or not anyone else would get hurt by her decisions. However, despite my other friends telling me not to speak to her anymore and to drop her as a friend I did what I feel you’re supposed to do to your friends and I forgave her. Later on after she had cheated on all three of those boys with the other she had started dating one of their other friends who Justin had tried to get to beat up Kevin, because my friend had caused a lot of drama between them. The other friends name was Jesse. I had known Jesse a little bit before she did and I never once had feelings for the guy. There came times when she would get mad at me for talking to him when she wasn’t there or if he took my side of her in an argument. We would literally be arguing in the halls because she would think that I was trying
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to take her boyfriend, which was never the case he was just like a big brother to me. Again and again people would tell me that I needed to stop talking to her because all she was going to do was make my life more miserable and just bring misfortune to it. I never listened though; I just kept forgiving her and giving her more chances. I felt that if I am going to call someone my friend why shouldn’t I give them more than one chance? I have an obligation to forgive my friends for whatever they do to me. Or so I thought. Two other cases where I strongly obligated myself to a friendship that was doomed were my ex-friend Sam and more recently my ex-friend Heaven. I don’t know why even to this day I still feel obligated to give more energy to a relationship than I feel is being given back. Maybe I still have my insecurities or maybe it has just become so integral to my life to be the person that always goes the extra mile. But my obligations only last to a certain extent. I’ll keep giving until I feel I have no more left to give or I just become fed up. With my friend Sam, I met him through my friend Jesse. From day one this man started telling me all of his problems. He was in and out of Rehab, had a daughter, the mother of his child hated him, had gotten kicked out of school at age 17, and had just newly converted to Islam. I can’t even begin to describe how fast my stress level sky rocketed by trying to help him with his problems. I think I kind of felt guilty because he had just converted to Islam and because he was my “brother” in Islam I felt obligated to him although he was a complete stranger. This tends to happen to me a lot, people that I’ve never met
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  • Spring '12
  • AMARDORODRIGUEZ
  • Interpersonal relationship

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