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14. Compensation Compensation is a process of psychologically counterbalancing perceived weaknesses by emphasizing strength in other arenas. By emphasizing and focusing on one’s strengths, a person is recognizing they cannot be strong at all things and in all areas in their lives. For instance, when a person says, “I may not know how to cook, but I can sure do the dishes!,” they’re trying to compensate for their lack of cooking skills by emphasizing their cleaning skills instead. When done appropriately and not in an attempt to over- compensate, compensation is defense mechanism that helps reinforce a person’s self-esteem and self-image. 15. Assertiveness Assertiveness is the emphasis of a person’s needs or thoughts in a manner that is respectful, direct and firm. Communication styles exist on a continuum, ranging from passive to aggressive, with assertiveness falling neatly in-between. People who are passive and communicate in a passive manner tend to be good listeners, but rarely speak up for themselves or their own needs in a relationship. People who are aggressive and communicate in an aggressive manner tend to be good leaders, but often at the expense of being able to listen empathetically to others and their ideas and needs.
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People who are assertive strike a balance where they speak up for themselves, express their opinions or needs in a respectful yet firm manner, and listen when they are being spoken to. Becoming more assertive is one of the most desired communication skills and helpful defense mechanisms most people want to learn, and would benefit in doing so.
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Defense Mechanism Repression Burying a painful feeling or thought from your awareness though it may resurface in symbolic form. Sometimes considered a basis of other defense mechanisms. You can't remember your father's funeral.> Denial Not accepting reality because it is too painful. You are arrested for drunk driving several times but don't believe you have a problem with alcohol. Regression Reverting to an older, less mature way of handling stresses and feelings You and your roommate have get into an argument so you stomp off into another room and pout Projection Attributing your own unacceptable thoughts or feelings to someone or something else You get really mad at your husband but scream that he's the one mad at you. Splitting Everything in the world is seen as all good or all bad with nothing in between. You think your best friend is absolutely worthless because he forgot a lunch date with you. Isolation of affect Attempting to avoid a painful thought or feeling by objectifying and emotionally detaching oneself from the feeling Acting aloof and indifferent toward someone when you really dislike that person
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Displacement Channeling a feeling or thought from its actual source to something or someone else.
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